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Hi Heather,
I have three over-protective brothers. I’m a tomboy, so I do hang out with boys a lot. But my brothers hate it! One time an older kid started to flirt with me, and before I could say anything else, my brothers were chasing him down the street! Is it normal for brothers to act like this?
Brothers, like any sibling, can definitely be a pain sometimes. I know it’s really annoying that they act so overprotective, but you can take a little comfort in knowing that there are plenty of other gURLs going through the exact same thing, because this is totally normal.
Try looking at this in a more positive light. Your brothers are only looking out for you. They aren’t doing this to hurt you. It’s actually the exact opposite — they’re doing everything they can to make sure you don’t get hurt. They feel a sense of responsibility to watch over you. The next time they act overprotective, think of it this way: they love you and care about you enough to take care of you, and they don’t want to lose you or watch you get hurt.
However, if they’re really going overboard, you need to talk to them. Explain to them that you appreciate what they’re trying to do, but that you need a little room to have a life of your own. Tell them that if you ever feel like you’re hurt or in danger, they’ll be the first ones you call, but until then, you need them to back off a little. If that doesn’t work, try talking to your parents about it. Maybe they can step in.
WDYT, gURLs? Do you have over-protective older siblings? How do you deal with them? Share your stories and advice below.
take care,
heather
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i have 2 brothers and an super overprotectiuncle so i know how u feel
I have one older sister but she is equally embarrassing and way over protective. i remember that we would be mad at each other so i would go venture around the store and she would follow me and i asked my mom why she does that and she told me that she needs to watch over me. Now she held up a little bit cause shes in college and im 14 but she is like an older brother. (i think)
Gosh i know this feeling i have 4 brothers and im the only girl! and i get along with guys way better than girls! and they hate it! and my little brother is always ratting me out its annoying! they need to unsterstand im 15! i can handle myself lol!
I have 4 older brothers and they are overprotective too. I know that they are just trying to watch out for me but it gets really annoying. Since i grew up with 4 older brothers and no sisters Im a tomboy too. It really bugs me though because everytime I even talk to a guy they freak out! I really wish I hd a sister to talk to because me and my mom arent close.