I’m 14 years old and I feel like boys don’t look at me, they just look at my fat. I’ve had a crush on only 3 boys and the first one told me that I was too fat to make it in any job. The next one told me I was too fat to date him. The third one just kept staring at me. I want to make a love connection but how can I do that when all everyone keeps looking at is my weight? How can I get them to see me for me?
You should never let anyone make you feel badly about yourself. If those boys were calling you fat, then consider yourself lucky that they’re not a part of your life. Nobody deserves to be spoken to that way, and no one should ever be made fun of for the way they look. If a guy is making you feel down, then they aren’t worth your time. But you probably already knew that, right?
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to make people think a certain way about you, and you should never try to do that — it will only make you unhappy. It may sound corny, but the most important thing is that you feel comfortable with yourself and your body. If you’re happy with your weight and you’re healthy, then it’s great that you don’t feel the need to change for anyone.
It might seem like it’ll never happen, but you have plenty of time to meet a great guy who doesn’t care about your weight. For now, just keep being yourself. Keep your confidence high, because that’s something that people notice and like. It can take some time before we meet the person who is right for us, so just be patient.
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