Hey Heather ,
When me and my boyfriend have sex I really encourage him to use a condom because I don’t wanna take any chances on anything. He’ll wear one for a little bit and then wants to take it off. Don’t get me wrong.. it feels GREAT without one, and he knows not to “cum” in me and he doesn’t. But how could I convince him to use and KEEP one on during sex ?
Unfortunately, a lot of guys don’t like wearing condoms during sex because they think sex feels better without one. And while that might be true for some guys, it doesn’t make it any safer to have sex without any protection. So it’s great that you realize the importance of wearing a condom and keeping it on for the entire duration of sex.
Just because he doesn’t come inside of you doesn’t mean there isn’t still a risk of getting pregnant, especially if you’re not on any kind of birth control. Guys let out pre-cum during sex, and while that may seem so small that you usually don’t even notice it, it’s still enough to get you preggers. The ‘Pulling out’ method, which it seems is what you’re doing, is definitely not a form of birth control and should never be used as one. Also, were you and your boyfriend tested before you started having sex? Unless you know for sure that he doesn’t have any STD’s, you’re still at risk of getting one from him when you don’t use a condom.
These are the kinds of things you need to remind your boyfriend about. It’s really easy for guys, or anyone for that matter, to get lost in the heat of the moment and forget about the consequences, so talk to him before you start hooking up. Tell him that while you love having sex and being intimate with him, you can’t keep doing it without a condom. If he doesn’t think it’ll feel as good, try experimenting with different condoms, like ones that heat up or have lube on them. They’re made with his pleasure in mind.
Wearing a condom is a different feeling that he’ll have to get used to. If he’s not willing to do that to protect both of you, then he isn’t worth risking your well-being for.
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