Bristol Palin Clarifies That She Wasn’t Raped, but That Her Virginity Was “Stolen”

All eyes on Bristol... again.

When Bristol Plain shared the story of the first time she had sex, it definitely sounded pretty traumatic. She says she was drunk and that she didn’t remember  her and then-boyfriend Levi Johnston doing the deed. Since the definition of rape is having sex with someone who doesn’t consent, people started to question if the gURL was actually raped.

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To clear the air, Bristol told Good Morning America, “[Stolen] is what it felt like. I’m not accusing Levi of date rape or rape at all but I am just looking back with my adult eyes that I have now, and just thinking ‘that was a foolish decision.’ I should have never been underage drinking, and I should have never gotten myself into a situation like that.”

What do you think? Is Bristol’s wording sketchy? Would you use the term “date rape” for her experience? Is it anyone’s business? Watch the video below and tell us in the comments.

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  • narwhaleous

    I hope you’re kidding, Serena and Skyrider.

    She was too drunk to give her consent – therefore no consent was given, which constitutes rape. She probably felt she could trust Johnston; so actually, it isn’t all that hard to blame the guy. So what if he was drunk, too? It should be ingrained into people’s minds that just sleeping with someone without their OK is totally unacceptable.
    The slut-shaming attitude from you is exactly why victims of rape find it so hard to speak out when something like this has happened. In fact, that’s probably why she’s reluctant to use terms such as “rape” and “rapist” in reference to the incident – her family have probably already turned the whole “well why the hell did you get that drunk in the first place?!” yarn.

    I think we should be asking why the hell Levi Johnston gave into the apparently overwhelming urges of his penis and felt the need to assault his girlfriend while she was unconscious.

    • Dori

      While I’d feel a lot more comfortable about making a comment if I knew exact details, but, because she keeps revising, the chances of that are slim, I feel like this is a touchy situation in any case.

      While I am not comfortable at all with the concept of drunkenly waking up to an unexpected person messing with genitals (yours or this person’s), to me it sounds like it would be rape from the first description, but it is something that I’m not entirely certain about. That being the case, my lack of certainty is what makes me hesitant to say that it IS rape or ISN’T rape. Being drunk does tend to make the situation hairier, but the general consensus is that consent cannot be given when one is intoxicated.

      I disagree entirely with blaming this on her being drunk, but I don’t think we can excuse him as drunk either. You don’t lose your sanity when you’re drunk, nor do you lose your morals and restraint.

    • Vaiva

      Actually, narwhaleous, you are just blaming the guy.
      If they were BOTH drunk, it’s both of their faults. You are contradicting yourself: if the girl’s drunk, she cannot give consent, but if the guy is also drunk (probably more drunk then the girl) then he’s at fault because he was thinking with his penis. That’s so sexist. You and I weren’t there, perhaps SHE was the one that came on to HIM, suggested they have sex and when they were doing the deed, blacked out. Who’s to say they weren’t both conscious when he broke her hymen? And, nobody can testify if he stopped when she blacked out.
      If this was the other way around, I bet you would still be blaming the guy.

      This was not rape, but REAL rape victims get symphaty and help – if even she says it wasn’t rape, it probably wasn’t.

  • KitKat

    I have to agree with Serena.. She knew that drinking clouds your thinking, and that there was a possibility she could’ve “lost”(thrown away) her virginity in her drunked state. He was probably drunk too, and she needs to face the fact that she screwed up.

    • JJ

      You can’t legally give consent when you’re drunk. She didn’t screw up. She wasn’t able to give consent.

  • Kira

    That sounds like rape to me. In fact, its almost spot on from when we talked about rape in health class.

    • Lia

      I agree with all of this, but at the same time girls can be a tease. They don’t want to look too easy so they say No. They want to test how much you desire them so they say No. But they want you, exepct you, to keep asking, keep asking, keep asking until they say Yes. So often, when they say No, they really mean Yes. That’s why there’s confusion. And there’s a big problem when these girls say No and really mean No! Because then nobody takes them seriously.

      • JJ

        Consent can only come with the word “yes” not the word “no.” It is disgusting to hear this from a fellow woman!! You should be ashamed.

        • LoVe

          This is so true. One of the biggest soacil problems is peer pressure. It takes a courage not to behave like the rest of the crowd to risk being ostracised and mocked for not embracing aggressive behaviour. It takes a real man. Remember that you’re not born a man, you become one by your actions and your beliefs. And real women want real men.

  • Morgan

    Ah, so problems with word choice is a hereditary thing. She could have just said that she regretted losing her virginity and drinking.

  • http://gurl.com niaBoo

    i dont think she should because she is a parent and thats her body and her privacy. thats none of anyones business lol i hope she dont cause shes already got the cameras following her thats just gonna make it worse.

  • Serena

    Any shred of credibility Bristol had in my eyes just went out the window. Legally rape? Ehhh…depends of who your judge is, that’s a gray area. Her virginity wasn’t “stolen”, it was thrown away when she decided to get wasted. To the point though: she REALLY shouldn’t be associating her mistakes with what can easily be misconstrued as a serious trauma. Her 15 mins. are up, can she go away now?

    • JJ

      She didn’t throw away her life when she was wasted. She could not legally give consent because she was drunk. Wouldn’t you feel the same way if you were in her situation?

  • Serena

    Any shred of credibility Bristol had in my eyes just went out the window. Legally rape? Ehhh…depends of who your judge is, that’s a gray area. Her virginity wasn’t “stolen”, it was thrown away when she decided to get wasted. To the point though: she REALLY shouldn’t be associating her mistakes with what can easily be misconstrued as a serious trauma. Her 15 mins. are up, can she go away now?

  • Skyrider

    Legally it’s rape, but if they were both wasted, it’s hard to blame only the guy. Rape is really defined by how you feel afterward, if you feel violated or taken advantage of, that’s different than regretting the decision.

    • a.m.y.

      That’s so true. I hate how everyone just keeps blaming the guy. They were both drunk and maybe they were both horny at that point plus they make reckless decisions. It’s like what people said : she was too drunk to give consent therefore she was too drunk to think and he was too drunk to think as well. It’s hard to determine whether it was rape or not! I bet if it was the other way around people would still blame the guy !

  • http://videogurlx.tumblr.com/ Lola

    To be honest, she did sound a little bit out of word. I thought she meant she was raped, too. When you say your virginity was “stolen”, people are automatically going to accuse it of date-rape. I think she meant, like she said, that she didn’t know what was going on…but if it was rape, I’m sure Levi wouldn’t have been her to-be fiance, and wouldn’t have stayed in Bristol/their sons’ life.