My Stuttering Problem is Ruining My Life

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Hi Heather,

I’m 13 years old, and I have a stuttering problem. Because of this, I can’t make friends, or socialize as much as I would like to. School is basically hell, and when I have to do something that requires speaking, like an oral presentation, I refer to those kind of days as “hell day.”

After I struggle through that, I have a temporary period of intense self hate and loathing. I guess this is also the source of other problems like my low self-esteem and periods of heavy depression. I don’t want to trouble my mom with these issues because she has a lot of things going on in her life. My older brother isn’t even home half of the time, because he’s busy hanging out with friends. I would really appreciate a response from you. Thanks!

You don’t have to feel badly about yourself because you stutter. Stuttering is a speech problem and affects over 68 million people every day  — it doesn’t mean you’re stupid and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. While there’s currently no “cure” for stuttering, there are a number of treatments available for you. And the good news is t most people who work with speech therapists (especially at your age) to correct with stuttering will outgrow it.

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Stuttering is not a disease, it’s a manageable speech disorder.  In order to find a solution, your best bet is to work with a professional speech therapist to correct your stutter. That’s why approaching your mom (no matter how busy she seems) or a teacher/guidance counselor is a good idea. They’ll be able to connect you with a speech pathologist who will be able to work with you to stop that stuttering and all of the anxiety that comes with it.   

In the meantime, if you want to try fixing your stuttering on your own, always try to visualize what you say before you say it. Take deep breaths to calm yourself down before talking. Make sure you’re always breathing — it sounds silly, but some people who stutter don’t breathe while talking.

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The most important thing to remember: You’re going to be okay! You may not solve all of your problems in a day, but I promise you that you’ll get better. Let me know how it all goes!

What about you, gURLs? Have you ever had issues with stuttering? Got any tips of your own? Share your stories and advice below.

take care,


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  • sa…sa….santhosh

    i have stuttering problem only in-front of unknown persons and it comes when i m excited and over enthusiasm…i cried many nights lonely only because of i feel shammed about my self…

  • America

    I started stuttering after my sister’s accident, and slowly it’s been getting worse which is why I don’t really talk to people whom I don’t know. But I’ve learned to just talk to them, they probably won’t mind and if they do, they are worth your time.

    What I do to help, is to say what you wanna say in your head first, then out loud. It works. But like the person above (or below) said, there’s nothing wrong with stuttering.

  • i like mangoz

    i used to have a stuttering problem but the more i praticed talking i got better, if it doesnt get better have you ever though about going to a professional for this problem, you get better their is nothing wrong with stuttering.