I have two great, close friends, but sometimes I wonder if they’re that great. They sometimes leave me out of their conversations and say some not so nice things. For example, I sit right next to them and they make it seem like I’m not there. Sure, sometimes they make me laugh or help me out, but I do wonder… What should I do for me to have two great, close friends without me being hurt?
You’re right, these don’t sound like very great friends at all.
While they do sound like fine people to keep around (since they’re there for you sometimes), but I’d definitely suggest you look for a new set of great friends.
Like I told this gURL, it’s normal to grow out of friendships and healthy to start forming new ones. The easiest way to make new friends is to join a sport or a club you’re actually interested in and start hanging out with people who share your passions. Be yourself, treat others as you’d like to be treated, and you’ll eventually find a
friend who you click with really well.
It’ll be hard at first, but having great friends (who actually are great) is worth the energy it takes to find them. Fair-weather friends — people who are only around when it’s convenient for them — can be a good time, but you deserve to have true BFFs, you know?
What about you, gURLs?
Do your friends ever make you feel bad? And how do you find good friends? Share your stories and advice below.
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