Should I Shave Down There?


Hi Heather,

I have been avoiding letting guys see me “down under” because I’m not sure how guys like it being taken care of down there. I’ve heard that guys hate bushes of pubic hair, but is it too porn-ish to take all the hair off? What do guys like? What do other girls do? I don’t have girlfriends to ask what they do so I could really use advise so I don’t scare off a guy by having too much or too little hair down there!


How you want to deal with your hair down there is totally up to you. There is no “right” way to be when it comes to styling your pubic hair. Keep in mind that most gURLs are self-conscious about how they look down there, so you don’t have to feel alone.

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It’s impossible to know exactly how guys like a gURL to look down there, because every guy has a different opinion. It’s true that some guys perfer gURLs to be clean-shaven, but just as many guys don’t mind a little or even a lot of hair on your vulva. If you’re really ready to let a guy see this part of you, then you should feel comfortable enough with him to talk about what he likes. But what it really comes down to is what will make you feel the most comfortable.

Plenty of gURLs shave their pubic hair off, so if you want to, it’s totally normal and not at all “porn-ish”. If you want to do that, be aware that it’s a sensitive area — like I told this gURL: use a bikini-specific shave gel and a clean razor, go slowly and just be careful. If you don’t want to shave, that’s completely fine also, and you can just use a tweezer to trim a little down there once in a while if you want.

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Remember that it’s your body and you need to do what makes you the most comfortable — not just what you think will make a guy happy.

WDYT, gURLs? Do you ever worry about what you look like down there? Do you shave your pubic hair? Share your stories and advice below.

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  • jaylen

    Can you shave your stomach and back? I’m not sure if I should do it or use one of those creams to remove hair.

    • Christina

      I would use a hair removal cream like veet or nair. Im not sure how well it would work because ive only ever used hair removal creams for my bikini area (it worked for that). Or you could wax but i would definitely not shave because shaving often causes hair to grow back thicker and darker, and you wouldnt want that. Hope i helped!

  • Jen

    I have doctor app coming up at end of month that it
    Psych down i try shave all down there .i have guy doctor .i have never had one done
    Please anyone .there is little bit left .what should i for doctor.
    I m very nevrse about bc it guy doctor which i trust but i never ever
    Had guy look down there before what should i do please help