I was about to give my boyfriend oral when I saw his penis. I don’t know why but I thought it was gross and couldn’t do it. What do I do to get over being freaked out by it?
A lot of gURLs get grossed out the first time they see a penis — it’s a totally normal reaction because, let’s face it, penises are kind of weird. It’s not a part of the body that we’re used to seeing. It might take a little getting used to, but I’m sure that it’s something you’ll eventually get over.
Maybe your reaction is an indication that you’re not ready for sex, even oral sex. If seeing his penis really makes you uncomfortable, then think about waiting until you feel really ready to do anything else with your boyfriend. You don’t have to tell him you’re grossed out, just tell him you aren’t ready.
If you think you are ready and just really want to get over your nerves, talking to your gURL friends about your guy’s penis (and penises in general) will probably make you feel a lot better, since it breaks the taboo of talking about sex and genitals. Being able to laugh about our own bodies and learning to accept everything about them is the key to a successful sexual relationship.
WDYT, gURLs? Have you ever been grossed out by a guy’s penis? How did you get over it? Share your stories and advice below.
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