I am a freshman in college and my 22-year-old boyfriend wants me to have a baby NOW! I don’t feel ready but he wont let go of the topic. Help!
If you’re not ready to have a baby, you’re not ready. End of discussion. It’s unfair of your boyfriend to not respect your decision right now, especially when you’re already dealing with the stress of college. It’s your body and your life, and someone who loves you needs to understand that.
Tell your boyfriend you aren’t ready to get pregnant and that you aren’t going to change you mind anytime soon. Find out why he wants a baby so badly. It’s possible that he might be worried you two will break up and he thinks having a baby will keep you together (which, by the way, is not a good reason). Or maybe he just feels ready to take that step (also not fair to your life and priorities). Either way, you need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel.
If he still doesn’t drop it, then I’d consider ending things with him. No one, especially a boyfriend, should put so much pressure on you to do something you don’t want to do. That only shows that he cares more about what he wants than what you want, and that isn’t fair to you.
If he’s a good guy, he’ll know you’re worth the wait. If not, congrats: You avoided a potentially awful relationship.
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