I was almost 2 months pregnant and had a miscarriage. I wasn’t sure if I even wanted to keep the baby, but now I feel totally heartbroken and helpless. My parents didn’t know I was pregnant but my friends did. They’re all concerned about me but I haven’t told them I had a miscarriage yet. I’m too scared and ashamed to tell anyone, but it’s eating me up inside. I haven’t even told the father cause I don’t know how he’ll react, but I can’t keep ignoring his calls and texts forever. How do I tell him and my friends I lost the baby?
I’m so sorry for your loss. Even though you didn’t know what you were going to do about this pregnancy, losing a baby is still an extremely hard thing to go through. I can only imagine how sad you must be feeling. However, having a miscarriage is not your fault and you have no need to feel ashamed about it. You might feel alone, but you aren’t. Unfortunately, miscarriages are common — at least 10-25% of women who know they’re pregnant will have one.
I know how hard it might be to open up, but talking to the people closest to you can help you mourn your loss. Talk to the people you feel most comfortable with first, like your friends or a school counselor. But if you’re not comfortable talking about it in person, there’s an entire section of the Shout Out Boards for gURLs who have been in your position.
Assuming he knew that you were once pregnant, the father especially needs to know what’s going on. Out of everyone, he is the one person who should truly understand how you feel — after all, he also lost a baby.
And if you feel comfortable, you should definitely talk to your parents, since they might be able to understand what you’re going through. Although the news may come as a shock to them, ultimately they will only want you to feel better.
Remember: You are not alone, you did nothing wrong and you have nothing to be ashamed of.
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