I really like this guy and I think he might like me too, but he’s dating a girl who has a reputation of being kinda slutty (we are both 13). I don’t think he’ll ever ask me out because I’m not that kinda girl. What do I do??????????
I know how much it sucks to see the guy you like be with another gURL, especially when that gURL is really different than you. It can make you feel he’ll never ask you out because you aren’t like her. But if a guy is really into you, he’ll like you for you. Try to beat the pressure to hook up just to get him to like you — that’s not all a guy looks for in a gURL, you know!
However, even if you think this guy has feelings for you, the fact is, he already has a girlfriend. I know it feels really unfair to you that he’s with someone else, but it would also be unfair to her if you tried to steal him away. Regardless of how much you’re into him, he’s unavailable right now and liking this guy while he has a GF is only going to hurt you in the end.
And no matter how badly this situation makes you feel, calling another gURL a slut isn’t going to help the situation. Don’t believe all of the rumors you hear, especially if you don’t know her that well. There’s no reason gURLs should feel bad for hooking up if that’s what they feel comfortable doing — it’s something that lots of people do, and no one should be called names for doing it.
Let me know how it goes, okay?
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