I’m probably not the skinniest girl , but I’m also not fat. Ever since I have been little my parents have been bugging me about my weight. They call me names that are hurtful, and the worst part is that when I go out I have to dress and be a certain way. It makes feel like they are embarrassed of me. It’s just so stressful and I don’t know what to do. Help me out, Heather!
It’s really unfair that your parents are putting you in this position. Being a teenager and dealing with all of the pressure of school is hard enough — you shouldn’t have to come home and feel that way. While the most important thing is that you feel comfortable in your own skin (and I’m so glad that you do), telling your parents how their comments are making you feel can really help the situation.
Your parents might not realize the effect their words and actions are having on you if you’ve never said anything before. Sometimes when parents try to be protective, they come off as mean and controlling. It’s possible that they think their comments are a way of motivating you to improve yourself. Whatever the reason, it’s not okay.
Approach them calmly. Tell them how much it hurts and embarrasses you when they call you names, and ask them to please stop. If they don’t listen, try to find another adult, like a school counselor, who can talk to your parents for you. Sometimes hearing something from an outsider–especially an “expert”–will make a bigger impact.
No matter what, keep up the positive self-image you have. In the end, what’s most important is how you feel about yourself.
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