I’m 18 years old and have never had a boyfriend before. I’ve never had sex or even made out. I’m extremely “innocent” or “pure,” as all my friends at school say (and I’m completely fine with that, since I want to focus on myself and my health as much as I can). But, I do want to have a boyfriend and eventually have sex and get married.
This year at school, a close guy friend of mine told me it’s possible to die from having sex if one waits too long (or has it first as an adult). Of course, this really shocked me and now I want to find out if it’s really true. Can you die from having sex if you wait until you’re older? Also, will being this inexperienced have a huge effect on my love life in the future? Thanks.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with focusing on yourself right now. It’s completely fine and normal to be 18 and have no interest in having a boyfriend or a sex life right now. I think it’s great that you’re holding your ground and sticking to what you believe in.
Now, as for this rumor that you can die from having sex if you wait too long — that is absolutely FALSE! No one has ever died just from having sex at an older age. It’s true that sex can be painful your first time, but that’s a normal experience for a gURL at any age. It sounds to me like your guy friend that told you this is seriously misinformed, or he’s just trying to mess with you.
You shouldn’t stress about being inexperienced. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you to explore your love life and sexuality. Having your first kiss and your first boyfriend are supposed to be enjoyable, happy experiences — don’t let any myths about waiting “too long” get in the way of your happiness. Although it definitely does take a little time to get used to kissing and dating at first, everyone goes through it regardless of age, so don’t feel alone. Eventually things will fall into place, no matter how long you wait.
I hope this clears things up! Let me know if you have any more questions.
What about you, gURLs? How long did you wait to have your first kiss or to start dating? Do you still feel inexperienced at all? Share your stories and advice below!
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