Around six months ago, my boyfriend of two years was texting another girl asking her for sex. I found this out last week when I was going through some messages on an old phone of his he said he broke. When I found them I could not understand. I asked him about it and he admitted it but said he never physically cheated on me with her and it was a stupid mistake and he hates himself for it. He went on and on about how I was the only one and loved me with his whole heart, but I wasn’t convinced.
Later that day a girl I hate txetd him saying “fml”, so I text her back, pretending to be him. I said “who is this?” and she said “(….)”, I said , “(…..)??”, then she replied with, “oh (bf’s name) you told me if I got a text saying who’s this to say it was (…..)”.
I asked my bf and he said it was so I didn’t get any ideas, because she’s nothing to him and didn’t want me getting worried. I talked to her and she reckons he’s been texting her constantly but they’re just friends.
My boyfriend and I are so happy, we are always together and he does the sweetest things, he’s had a rough upbringing and tells me stuff he would never say to others — trust me, serious stuff. I love my boyfriend so much, I know people throw that around but I can’t say it enough, I would do anything for this to all go away. I just don’t know what to do.
Both times, your boyfriend’s actions were really not okay. Sending texts to another gURL asking for sex is a major breach of trust. Even if he never physically slept with another person, plenty of people would consider just sending those texts to be cheating. It would be one thing if after his apology, he cut out that behavior, but you knew in your heart that he didn’t, and you were right. That is definitely a problem.
Now that he’s continuing to sneak around and text other gURLs (especially gURLs who you don’t trust), I see a major red flag. Maybe they really are just friends, but think about it: Would a trustworthy guy really create a back-up plan for when his girlfriend caught him texting with another gURL? Honestly: It sounds like he’s playing you.
You say you’re happy together, but this isn’t how a good boyfriend acts. Maybe he truly loves you, but you deserve better than that. If you feel like you have to snoop through his phone and constantly confront him for his actions, it’s time to rethink your relationship. If you still want to stay with him, then you’ll have to accept that he’s the kind of person who sneaks around because he needs female attention. Some gURLs are okay with that, but if you aren’t, then be true to your heart and let go before you get even more hurt.
Good luck with everything, and let me know how it all goes.
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