I had this giant group of friends that all used to hang out together. Now they exclude me, even my ex-best friend. She won’t talk to me, and I really only talk to two or three of the girls out of nine. I miss my ex-best friend and have sent her texts asking her to please respond and that I want to fix our problems, but she doesn’t respond.
I have another really good friend who’s helping me get by but I feel really left out when they’re talking about events they decided not to invite me to.
I’m really sorry to hear that your friends are ditching you. People are constantly changing and trying to figure out who they are as they get older, and sometimes we take out our frustrations and insecurities on the people closest to us. Who knows what things could be making your friends change and act this way? There are so many possibilities and not all are obvious. Whatever the case, remember their behavior is probably about them and not about you.
You did the right thing by trying to make up with your ex-best friend, and the way she responded is pretty immature and definitely not fair to you. A gURL recently wrote in who sounded like she was on her end of the conversation. Rather than spending your time on a friendship like that, I suggest letting go and focusing on the friends who actually make you happy. I know you were used to having a giant group of BFFs, but it’s the sad truth that as gURLs grow up, they grow apart.
And for the gURL who still is a really good friend, maybe you can talk to her privately and ask hey why everyone is ditching you. I wouldn’t be surprised if it was because they’re all just trying really hard to be cool. For some reason, people — bullies — have the habit of singling out one person to be mean to in order to make themselves seem like they have more power, so that they’re not the one getting left out. I know it’s messed up. On the bright side, not all gURLs are like that. Maybe it’s time you find a few new pals who don’t have the same insecurities and hang-ups as your old crew does. It might be hard at first, but you’ll be better off in the long run.
Good luck, and let me know what happens.
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