I’m a 7th grader and I have a DD sized bra. Some of the girls at my school created a weekly event called (my name) Titty Tuesday where they can make comments about my boobs and poke at them. They take pictures of my bra on Facebook and update their status saying that my bra size is 38 DD. I wish they would stop but they never do. What should I do? Most of them are my friends and I don’t want to lose them.
What your friends are doing is really not okay. In fact, they can actually get into a lot of trouble for sexual harassment. Check your school’s handbook for its sexual harassment policy — every middle school has one.
Directly tell your friends that you are not okay with their behavior and that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Don’t let them make excuses or call you names or say that they’re just joking around: The fact that they’re making comments, touching you, and posting things online shows that their bullying has gone far enough.
If they don’t stop, or you feel too embarrassed to confront them, talk to your parents, a teacher or a guidance counselor to get some help. I’d highly recommend printing out their Facebook pictures and statuses for proof. Sexual harassment can effect a gURL’s self-esteem, self-worth, performance in school, relationships… everything!
I know that they’re your friends, but sometimes people take jokes way too far. You should never make a person feel ashamed or humiliated about who they are, especially not someone you care about. It could very well be that your friends are jealous of your size, or that they’re just happy not being the ones getting made fun of. Maybe they think it’s funny and are getting wrapped up in the joke.
No matter what it is, there’s no good excuse to do it. They’ll most likely feel terrible and apologize. But if they won’t quit it or are really aggressive with their behavior, then they’re clearly not very good friends.
What about you, gURLs? Have you ever gotten bullied about your body? Have you ever been the one doing the teasing? Share your stories and advice below!
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