My and my boyfriend have been having sex (protected of course). He asks me what I like and does them, but he won’t open up to me about what he likes! When I ask him, all he says is “Being with you is my turn on.”
Some people find talking about sex awkward and embarrassing. Maybe your boyfriend honestly is completely satisfied with your sex life and loves every little thing that you do. Maybe he’s just a little shy and afraid to open up. Maybe he doesn’t want to freak you out with his kinks. Or maybe he doesn’t really know what he wants.
If he’s satisfied sexually but open to trying out new things, the best thing you can do is experiment and see what turns him (and you!) on. There are so many fun things to do in bed that couples never try out of fear or embarrassment, but since you both sound comfortable and happy with each other, this shouldn’t be a problem. Neither of you will ever know all of the things you like until you give ’em a whirl — how do you think Rihanna figured out she likes getting spanked?
If he’s on the shy side, gradually try new things with him in bed and see how he reacts. Different positions, different techniques, different everything. Try teasing him (sexually, not verbally) and see how he responds. It’ll make sex that much more enjoyable and intimate.
The #1 thing to remember when it comes to exploring each others’ wants: Never judge your sweetie in bed. As long as you two are both feeling safe, it will be easy to be honest about what you want sexually. Let him know there’s nothing he could say that would freak you out and make you leave (as long as you honestly feel that way). If he really doesn’t want anything, drop the subject for a while and enjoy what you have!
Keep it safe, take it slow, and have fun!
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