My mom recently found out I cut myself, and now (as me and my sister describe it) we’re in “maximum lock-down”. She took away my eyeliner, bracelets, and anything that could make me look like an emo or that could hide cuts and scars. HELP!
First of all, I’m really sorry that you feel the need to cut yourself. Even though your letter is all about your mom taking away your stuff, your self-injury is definitely the biggest issue at hand. By removing everything she thinks is associated with “cutting culture” (or, like you said, “anything that could make me look like an emo”), your mom is trying to help. Maybe what she’s doing will help, maybe it won’t, but just getting rid of your possessions and putting you on lock-down is definitely not the only way to handle things.
I suggest you talk to a school counselor or a therapist about what’s making you cut in the first place. Self-harm is really serious (and sometimes even deadly) action, and one of the best ways to deal with what you’re going through is by talking about it. You can also check out the Cutting & Self-Mutilation Forum on the Shout Out Boards for support from fellow gURLs.
Once you get your recovery started, explain to your mom that your eyeliner and bracelets are just a way of expressing who you are, and have nothing to do with hurting yourself — as long as that’s the truth. Remember that she ultimately wants to help you because she cares about you. By talking with her and sharing what’s going on in your head, she’ll know exactly what you need for help.
Let me know how it goes, okay?
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