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are you over what chris did?
It’s been two years since Chris Brown violently attacked his then-gf Rihanna, and he says it’s time to stop apologizing and move on from the “mishap.”
Chris told Page Six Magazine, “I’m in a positive place. I consider myself a grown-ass man. And at the end of the day, if I walk around apologizing to everybody, I’m gonna look like a damn fool.”
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The National Organization of Women thinks the “Forever” singer’s comments are an “insult against women across the country” and that, “To see him backing away from his responsibility to speak out against intimate partner violence is horrifying.”
NOW argues that, “It was not a mishap, this was a serious act of violence. No woman who has been assaulted would refer to it as a mishap, nor should anyone refer to it as such.”
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Should Chris Brown stop saying sorry, or should he be working to stop domestic violence? Do you hate him? Or are you a fan? Discuss below or in the Shout Out Boards.
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I totally agree with Rene. This man cannot just write what he did off as a “mishap” and pretend that it isn’t serious. Domestic abuse is a serious problem for women all over the world. The irony of all this, is that women have the tendency to be harder on each other than even men. When I was a child I witnessed my father beat my mother bloody almost daily. And you know what he did afterward? He’d come back and apologize every time, of course. My mother’s sisters and my grandmother all witnessed the bloody bruised mess she was following the abuse, and on at least one occasion they were actually in the room when it occurred. Do you want to know what they would say to her? They would say, “If a man feels appreciated, he won’t act up”. On several occasions my father has tried to contact me (by use of family members, namely my grandmother) and whenever I reject him they say, “Oh, please don’t tell me this is about his problems with your mother. That was over a decade ago, get over it”. My father did not deserve to be forgiven and neither does Chris Brown. To Kemah: Do you think that just because he was only publicly arrested for domestic abuse once that he’d never done it before? Oh please. If you do you are more immature and naive than your grammar suggests.
MOVE ON.
yes, this was violence, he should not call it a 'mishap'.
but honestly, this happened TWO years ago.
everyone makes mistakes, everyone deserves a second chance.
he's gotten help, and now he's making a comeback, good for him.
rihanna's gotten over it, and so should we.
seriously??? it was 2 years ago. what happend, happend and obviously both of them have moved on. what he did wasn't right but honestly, i don't think rihanna was all that innocent either. by the time that incident happend, she was already a good girl gone bad. chris is at the top of his game right now and he's just pushing further. and 4 all that need a time machine because they are stuck in the past, F.O.H.!!! it's done.
What Chris did WAS wrong, but honestly, it's been two years. It's not normal or healthy to dwell on something that long. Obviously he's realized he's made a big mistake, and instead of wollowing in self pity, he's being a man and moving on to a better life. Criticizing him and pointing fingers will do nothing but bring him down and delay his process. What is done, is done, so we should let bygones be bygones and move on with our lives.
Jay Smooth speaks some wise words about this situation:
http://colorlines.com/archives/2011/03/jay_smooth…
i agree with everyone here.. i love Chris brown's music.. and what happened, happened.. If Rihanna's not talking about it anymore than neither should we!!! MOVE ON.. there are a lot of women in domestic violence relationships now who fear getting out, and we should focus on those situations because this one is over with.. lol
I honestly think people should MOVE ON, AND LET IT GO. It happened 2 YEARS AGO. Both of them are very successful. I'm not saying what he did was right, but damn, everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes are made, so people can learn from them. And I truly think that Chris Brown has learned from them. I just wish people will leave him the hell alone! If he's trying to promote his album, or movie or something, let the interview just be about THAT. Don't bring up Rihanna. The only reason why people are picking on him is because he's Chris Brown. SO EFFIN WHAT?! He's a person! He's a human! He's normal just like you and me, he just happend to be a very successdul superstar that can dance and sing his ass off. Why is it so hard for you to forgive him? Why can't you just let 2009, STAY in 2009, and let the past be the past? I still love Chris Brown, and I always will, because unlike some hateful ass people who keep revisiting the past, I know how to forgive. I understand that even people on TV make mistakes. It would nice if people would start recognizing Chris for his talent, and not a mistake. I WILL FOREVER LOVE CHRIS BROWN (:
Alot of stars have made mistakes and we have put them in magazines and all that and they aint getting as much crap as he is REMEBER PPL SHE HIT HIM TO and when he went to a interview all he wanted to do was talk about the album but they wanted to talk about him and Rhinaana THERE IS NO HIM AND RHIANNA ANYMORE let it go SERIOUSLY PPL
I hope you guys respect my opinion but in honesty to your self we have all done something wrong in past mistakes? Im not saying what he did wasn't a bad thing because i felt so awful for rihanna but people change and for one Chris Brown looks like he has turned a corner and is back in the game!
And i strongly believe in second chances so im satnding by him 
BTW i love his new single yeah 3x amazing!<3 X
I honestly feel pretty bad for him. I mean of course he did wrong, but that was the PAST. How can you expect someone to be better if you continue to bring up old stuff? He's trying to make things right and people won't let him. Yet, they want to sit here and criticize him still. The whole thing with Rihanna should really be left alone.
It's obvious that what he did was wrong, and he is ashamed because of it. As soon as it happened, he went and got better, going to anger management classes ect. Most people who did this, and did what he did would soon be brought back into a better light. It's just because he is famous that he has been given the amount of greif he has.
Imagine, doing something wrong that you completeley regret, and you were able to fix the part of you that made you do it, and come out a better person, But now you are known for that bad action, and nothing else. You are trying to persuade people you have fixed what made you do it, and are a better person, but people ignore it and pin you down for everything you have done. It's wouldn't be nice, at all.
Right now, he is trying to hold his head up high, and get on with his carreer, which is admirationable.
I'm not saying what he did was right, At all, I'm strongly against it, and hate it, But he is one of the people who have WILLFULLY done something about it. At the end of the day, does that not seem like a good person at heart?
No i don't, things happen whether we like it or not and we can't always hold the same grudge against someone because we don't like what they did. You have to learn to move past it… Its like someone stealing your money. You will soon not even worry about it any more like the day that it accually happened.So I don't understand why people hate him for something he apologizes for. But if he were to do it again, i could understand that…
But I still luv'em!
I think that everyone makes mistakes , and they shouldnt be punished for their actions forever. Chris brown made a mistake and he has learned from it. I believe that he deserves another chance because no one really know what happened and the real true story about him and rihanna , for i believe that it was all chris browns fault. Although , he performed physical abuse to rihanna , it wasn't all his fault and its always two sides of a story . I believe that Chris Brown is a very talented person and deserves another chance to pursue his career without the judgements of the media and people in the world.
I LOVE HIM. hes a genuinely good person. hes very talented and he a sweetheart. and Rememmber RIHANNA HIT FIRST!! dont blame him for teaching her a lesson… i bet she hasnt hit any boyfriends anymore!!
Please! Chris Brown sent Rihanna to the hospital. He is agressive has issues and needs to get out of the way because everyone hates him. I would never buy his music and neither would anyone else.
I agree…. Lol. I dont promote domestic violence but I feel as though women sometimes take their anger to far with men and dont realize that what they are doin is also wrong no matter what and then when a man wants to retaliate after a while then they want to play victim. Rihanna shouldnt have kept pushing him. What chris brown did was wrong but I feel as thought he wasnt the only guilty one in that car.
Exactly. I was always told it doesn't matter the sex. If someone hits you first, you hit back. I'm not saying what he did what right and I'm not for domestic violence at all, but she was the main trigger for this.
With this said, I've been a Chris Brown fan from day one and always will be. I'm sure he gets it now.
That's bull! So what she hit him? He shouldn't have hit back and should have been the BETTER PERSON by using words, not FISTS. He sent her to the hospital! No one EVER SAID that violence was the answer. People always said violence is NOT the answer. He seems better, but I hate when people defend him on his talents and what he does for a living rather then who he is. You've never gotten to know him. He might be a ###hole or maybe he is a sweetheart, but he has issues he NEEDS to work out and NO ONE should defend that he doesn't need that.
I don't care what he does, what's done is done. He turned Rihanna into a crazy weirdo (listen to S&M it will scar you lol). He should apologize but it won't do anything. I think he deserves a second chance but he will always be known as "the guy who hit Rihanna".
thank you someone who dont care . so what he hit a female! We listening to him as entertain not for the things he do in his life!!!
This abuser doesn't deserve a second chance. What message are people sending to young women? That as long as a man who hits them says he's sorry that it's okay? That is ridiculous. He even called the event a "mishap" instead of what it really was which was an act of domestic violence. I hate him. He can't even admit to what he did being as bad as it was. In my opinion this jerk can't apologize enough. Someone should beat the hell out of him.
are u serious?! you CLEARLY don't know him at all! that was soooo ignorant!!!! rihanna needs to say sorry too. and you need to stay the f### out his business
I totally agree with Kemah
Exactly. He wants to move on because it makes him look bad, not to move forward and become a better person. But his fans are too fanatic to see that.
well i dont care what other people say i still love chris brown and there is nothing that no one can tell me that he should not get second chance.
still LOVE U!!!!!!!!!!!