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Dear Heather,
I’m 17 and I’m really skinny. I weigh a little over a hundred pounds. I really hate my body sometimes and I can’t even wear the clothes that I really want to because I feel so ugly in them. My legs and arms are like twigs and I have a really slim torso. I’m always wearing jeans because it seems like every time I show off my legs, I get a lot of stares. I just don’t feel comfortable with my body AT ALL and I really want to gain weight. I want to gain at least a little weight by prom (which is in a month) so I won’t look like a complete anorexic twig in my dress. Also, for future purposes, so I can wear the clothes that I like and not jeans all the time. Is there any way I can gain some weight?
In a country that seems obsessed with losing weight, with people who freak out about being unhealthily fat, it can be pretty hard to be on the opposite end of the body image spectrum. But, you’re not alone. Many people feel this way at different times in their lives, and you don’t have live with these bad feelings.
The key is learning how to change your attitude about your body, not changing your actual body or looks. If you’re unhappy with your eyes, getting different colored contact lenses probably won’t solve your problem. That said, even if you scarfed a weight gaining supplement every day of the week and packed on the pounds, you might find something else with your bod that you’re not as happy with. That leads to an endless, painful, and expensive quest to change your body, piece by piece, instead of accepting the way you look.
As for your clothes, I know it’s hard not getting to wear what you want. But there’s not a single gURL on the planet who I’ve met who can wear anything they want (seriously, even models!). Everyone has a hang up of some sort (real or exaggerated in their heads) that will keep them from wearing different kinds of clothes.
|Ever heard that phrase “laughter is the best medicine?” Maybe this can help your skinny woes.|
But to answer your question: Yes, there are safe ways to gain weight, and you can sit down with a nutritionist or your physician to find out what’s the best way for you. But either way? I’m pretty sure you’ll look amazing at prom! I hope you’ll send pics!
What about you, gURLs? Have you ever hated how you looked? How do you get over it? Share your advice!
take care,
heather
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Hello, I’m 12 and in high school, but i look so skinny, my arms look like pencils and my hands look like there’s no skin on them at all, i cant stand it anymore, i have to gain weight somehow, any ideas?, i don’t mind my waist that much, except the fact that i can see my ribs, is there a healthy way to gain weight that you can suggest for me? Please reply and tell me if you can, this is a really big issue for me, and it’s making me really upset, even my friends say that i’m skinny
I am 14 years old , 5ft 1in I weigh about 98 lbs , hate it ._.
Doctors say that my Bmi is healty but my appearance to people is wow your fucking skinny. I have big breast for my size (skinny) as my friends says not much of a big ass but has a butt a little one , I have scoliosis so I don’t really have curves because of that. I eat a lot but so difficult to put on weight , I eat put on weight go to the restroom then it’s gone -.- . All I want is a regular slim sexy curvy body , I want curves and to weigh about 109 :c by 2 months !!!!!!
I’m 15 and I haven’t dared weigh myself in a loong time..like 4 years ago and that was by force :/ (dumb nurses). I’m NOT anorexic but skinny is in the genes:( I loathh the beach..with curvy,perfecly blessed bodies prancing around with boy on their tail. One thing I HATED was when people would just walk up 2 me grab my wrist and wrap their finger around it!! My butt is so flat almost all jeans fall so I gotta look in the kids section in stores -_-’. Now I just stuff myself with food, even if I’m ‘full’. You shoulda seen me battle a huge plate o’ maccaroni XD
im so tiny i dont fit into skinny jeans and boys are starting to notice… my arms are twigs and i weight what an 8 year old should weight at my height… it sucks especialy when everone is so worryed about fat people!!! i wish people would help the really tiny people…
im 34 and been skinny for ever and i hate it when i was young i always thought when i get older it will get better NOT people always say aww your lovely wish i was slim ike u or people should love u the way u are well thats not as easy as that i have no chest wontwear shorts wont go swimming ive got lots of confidence with everything else just need to put on some weight help i eat alt but just dont put weight on i do not make myself sick i dont have an eating disorder but sympathise with anyone feeling the way i have done for years
Well, I’m really skinny too, but I’ve learn that I only need a lot of food and workout to gain weight.
My legs are so skinny i hat wearing dresses
Hi my name is ms lovely …… I wont tell my real age but its in aetween 11_16 yup so ani ways i have da sme problem i hate wearing skirts and dresses because my legs are thin like chicken legs nd when i go out in public people stare at me nd then laugh not the adults but the teens but the adults stare to nd i feel really akward but whenever call me chicken les nd toothpick i laugh but actually inside i have a funny feeling nd i dnt wnt to tlk to dat person nd i cried who clled me dat nme but as i grew nd people clled me dat nme i dnt hve dat feelin no mo nd im small nd i hve a fish face………… Hte it
I think you should be happy with yourself!!! I’m one to talk but A LOT of people(including me) would love to be skinny like you. Also if people are looking at you, they probably are checking you out! or just jealous. I too am uncomfortable with my body but I’m not skinny or curvy so I just really want to lose weight. My point is enjoy being skinny!!
Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin
Like a house of cards
One blow from caving in
Girl Your Amazing Just The Way You Are . !
I've had guys tell me before that I should "put some meat on those bones." I can't help it if I'm this skinny…but they can sure help to keep their opinions to themselves.
I have been in your shoes hun, so I know how you feel. I used to hate my body but it took finding a man that loves me for me to change the way i thought about my self. I'm 20 years old and i weigh maybe 115 at the most. I always wear jeans or sweats cuz i hate my legs. But i found out something. When a girl wears a skirt guys look at their legs, just like if a girl was to wear a low cut shirt they look at their boobs. Thats just the way guys are and if a girl is making fun of you don't listen to them. All through high school, I had this friend who would call me things like bones, toothpick, things like that. I even had a friend call me toothpickinbones. All those names in one and eventually everyone in my class was calling me that. I would lock myself in my room and cry. But i learned not to listen to anyone. God made you the way he wanted you and you are beautiful the way you are. Don't change yourself because your worried what people think. You will find a guy one day that will show and tell you everyday that your beautiful the way you are.
i have that but with no stares comin' my way. i wish i was skinny or had different hair.( preferably not drunken' wave hair cause that's what i have)but it is true. you look in the merrior and you see what you don't like in your self. i wish you find a way to love your self!!!
i promise you that so many girls are jealous of your thiness. i had the same problem last year and i was able to eat my way up a jean size (this happened within a time span of about 6months! i didnt overeat) i love my body now! You should just be thankful that once you go to college the freshman 15 is gonna do nothing to you while other girls are going to show the weight
i have the EXACT same problem gurl, but freak this. life is short and im not gonna be a teen all my life. i have to stop worrying what others will think and if i get stares i actually thought that they like what they see..thats a good thing! so im wearing shorts this spring and skirts with knee high socks. im expressing my style and not limiting myself to fashion. people think im a freshman when im a junior and weigh 95lbs. but whatever i wanna have fun with my life and thats what im gonna do..anyways, we're not going to be skinny forever so hmph to them lol
Well, I'm 15 and I feel the exact same way about my body. I'm skinny, I hate my chicken legs, and I so crave curvy hips. I usually don't wear skirts because I think my legs look awful in them. But thankfully, I don't hate my body as much as I did a while ago. The whole time I was looking at what I didn't like about my body I didn't pay much attention to the things about me that are nice or just fine. For example, I absolutly love my eyes and my boobs are pretty okay in my opinion. Lol. But my point is whenever you're looking in the mirror and you start thinging about what you dislike about yourself, stop and start pointing out the nice things about you.
Im skinny and im ok with it when people make comments i dont take them offensive its people out there that would do anything to be skinny im ws and i weight 110 i like my body i just wish my boobs were bigger but im fine with my weight