Reader Hookup Confession: I Hooked Up with My Cousin! Can I Go Back for More?

So wrong or so right?

This gURL’s got a guy she likes kissing, but she thinks it might be so wrong. Read on:

“I just recently moved back to my country (which is awesome), and my family and I were on are way back from a birthday party. When we finally got home, my mom and dad went inside and I stayed outside with my boy cousin. We were talking and all of a sudden he just grabbed me and kissed me. I’m not going to lie, I always think he is soo hot, but it was so weird. I try to avoid him but, he’s always texting me, and since he’s family, I see him a lot.

|This gURL’s got the hots for her sister. What should she do?|

I’m sort of afraid that it will happen, but then again, I liked it. I know it is wrong, but then again, it feels so right, and in my country it’s not something weird for cousins to flirt with each other and sometimes even have sex with each other. What should i do?”

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  • CARI

    whatever feels right

  • allie

    omg!!!! i know how you feel i like my cousin and he likes me but we dont really know what to do bout it i was adopted though but hey you like him he likkes you go for it ……you only live once lol

    • SuperFlirt ;*

      Since you are adopted you aren’t related to him so guys are blood family. As you said YOLO ! My advice is since your parets wouldn’t think you guys were into each other g for it. Get him in your room or you in his and start off by talking or playing a game. Flirt a little then lean in and kiss him ;*

  • Nickie

    Just be careful. You know you are more likely to have a deformed baby with your cousin than your brother of sister.

    • Sarah M

      Incorrect. Sibling mating carries a substantially higher risk of recesive genetics being expressed in offspring. And that’s what leads to birth defects.

  • unogirl101

    i have this fake cousin thats really cute and when we were like 6 he kissed me now he says he doesn’t remember but i know he does… i’m 13 he’s 15 and we barely talk but i saw him last week and before i left we hugged for like the first time in 9 years ๐Ÿ™‚ i mean he’s not the hottest thing on the planet… (in my opinion thats ian somerhalder and channing tatum<3) but yeah it was nice to actually talk to him again because we usually AVOID each other ๐Ÿ™‚ oh btw he's my uncles best friends stepson =/ confusing right well my uncles been this guys friend since 3rd grade… their 60 now o.o

  • bryana eva narie

    GO 4 IT

  • Olga

    My dad says if you’re like distant (like 6+) cousins; its okay. Or if its a step-relative its fine (cuz its not by blood). In my view, just do what feels right to you.

  • Amy Gibson

    yeah i liked my cousin… when i was like 5! am i the only person who thinks there is something wrong with this?

    • bryana eva narie

      YES

  • Marisa

    Its perfectly natural that u like him. but if hes closely related, make sure to use birth control. other than that, have fun!

    • RingoInSavannah

      Marisa answered the most smartest way.And I never read her talking about having his baby. Plus the male could pull out, wear a condom, go for her BackDoor or a headjob.

  • Amber

    Ok if you do start hookin up wit ur cuz, & not enjoy it, dats really wierd wen ou hav to go see him, & im just sayin wat if u got pretty far nd get pregnant, really hard 2 explain

  • chelisha

    Dont go back for more it might suck but it will just turn out to be a secret relationship family on family. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • J

    My cousin and I were FWB once. He has his own family now and I’m still enjoying life being single and studying. I would say it’s definitely alright to have sex with him coz eventually, you’ll both move on easily.

  • Sarah

    I used to have a thing for my cousin. But, I was like ten. Then I met my cousins, cousin. Who’s like really adorable. But, we haven’t ever really talked. You can’t control who you’re attracted to,but don’t have kids with this guy. That’s all I have to say.

  • lenalikeswafflez

    i wouldnt approve of this, i think you should have a talk with him and tell him how you feel

  • niceaj

    when i was about 4 or 5 i hooked up with my cousin too a couple of times, then my mom found out and she got mad at me, i did took my underwear off and almost had sex. i was small and stupid. now i cry sometimes because of what i did. i can’t forgive myself.

    • lenalikeswafflez

      you were only four or five year sold it okay its nothing to be ashmaed of you didnt know, but how old was this cusion if he was much older then you then he or she should be ashmaed

    • Mag~Dan

      YOU WERE 4! Dont still cry now, you didnt even know what you were doing!

    • lauren

      u were so young its happened to me but it went wayyyyyy father than tht and it happened a lot. i finally told my mom wen i was like nine atnd now i can tlk to her about anything. sont be mad u were four and u didnt kno wat u were doing. i forgave myself and now i am happy and dont cry about it anymore. stay strong cuz if i got thru it i kno u can! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Kasandra

    I think you cant control who u fall for. This summer i visited my family in colombia, and felt attracted to my guy cousin too. we ended up hooking up many times, i really feel a connection, he makes me happy, and we dont feel awkward, so i dont regret it. But we are first cousins so i know we cant have kids.

    • Hayden218

      Siblings in Egypt used to have children all the time and none of them had genetic disorders.

  • anna

    Please keep in mind that having children with him would not be good. Whatever type of cousins you are, having children with a familial member can result in genetic disorders. My aunt and uncle are third or fourth cousins but four of their six children have genetic disorders and one of them almost died.

  • Sasha

    If he makes you happy, then why not? Do u get butterflies? Do you always smile when your around him? Ask yourself these questions, and if the answer is yes…. then why not? ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Amber

    watever makes u happy but think this do u want 2 hook up wit some1 nd not enjoy it dn u see that person during family gatherings awkard but do wat u think iz rite

  • Tay

    Hey I say go for it. My cousin is marrying her second the end of the year. You cant control who you are attracted too

  • Alyssa

    do what ever feels right