i need some serious blow job advice, stat!

hi heather,
I’ve performed oral sex on my boyfriend a few times but can’t seem to make him cum. I don’t know what to do. I’ve never had a problem with any of the other guys I’ve performed it on. And I feel bad because the whole purpose of doing it is so that he doesn’t have to do it himself but he ends up having to anyways. What do I do?

Oral sex–like any other kind of sex–can be tricky; what feels so right on some people just doesn’t do it for others. You shouldn’t feel bad or inadequate; if anything, it sounds like you’re a great partner who wants to please their sweetie in bed.

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The best thing you two can do is explore what feels good for your boyfriend. Guys prefer all different speeds, amounts of pressure, and techniques. Have him be vocal about his desires during fellatio, making sure you both feel safe, comfortable, and sexy at all times. Sometimes it’s hard to tell people what we want sexually, out of fear of embarrassment or shaming.

Keep in mind that some guys are so used to masturbating a certain way that it’s hard to reach orgasm without finishing themselves off. Your boyfriend can literally re-program himself to climax by applying less pressure to his penis when he masturbates. By using a lighter touch and letting himself reach orgasm longer than usual, he’ll be able to respond to what you do in bed.

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Do any gURLs out there have oral sex tips of their own? I’d love to hear what you think.

take care,
heather

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  • christina

    Ask him qustions about what he likes. Start simple and ask him if he’d prefer slow or fast. Don’t make him feel akward. Most guys don’t want to talk about how they masterbate. If he asked you haw you masterbate how would you feel? So just ask more of a, “Babe what can I do to make it better” or “What feels the best to you”.

    Variation of speed and pressure are good but try a little bit of tongue action. He’ll love it!

  • http://www.bjtutorial.com How to give a good blow job

    Here are some blow job tips for you…

    1. Watch him masturbate briefly to learn his ideal tempo. Try to replicate his tempo.

    2. Include more hand at the same time you are giving him oral. Heather is right – most guys are expert at getting themselves off but sometimes have problems when with a woman. It’s more common than you can imagine.

    3. Don’t play the guessing game. Ask him…does he want it faster, slower, harder, softer, more hand, less hand etc..

    This are the kinds of issues I try to cover in my guide on How To Give A Blow Job

    Jay Archer

  • Courtney

    On the note of your boyfriend having to "finish himself off", if you just can't seem to get it right, try having him control your hand as you give him a hj. This way, it's less awkward, you aren't so tired, he can finish the way he likes, and you'll know better what to do the next time.

    • Alexis

      Courtney, That is a good point. Not to be be nosy but do you do that for your boyfriend? I know some guys that like that but never seem to finish with anyone, even this bisexual guy i know he has never been able to finish with his girlfriend or boyfrind. I hope your advice works. Thank you.

  • taylor

    i dont think its nasty, its just another way to have fun in bed, a lot of guys like it.

  • Madison

    no offense… but girls who do this are disgusting and sick and nasty

    • Alivia

      I think its wrong to judge someone by what they do in bed

      • Allesahndra

        I agree with alivia

    • Mixie

      Then don’t do it and leave the girls who do alone

    • dayme

      Um a lot of girls do it… how old are you 11???

    • Olivia

      by saying “no offence”, that makes it okay for you to judge and shame someone?
      we all like different things, it’s not for you to tell others what is okay and what’s not.