Discuss: “Purity Ring on It” Video Encourages Gurls to Save Their Virginities Until Marriage. Are You Holding out for God?

this gURL's waiting until marriage. are you?

Putchya Hands up! Oh , oh, oh, oh, oh! The bootylicious Beyonce‘s super catchy “Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)” is the anthem for gURLs dating non-committing guys.  “If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it!” she repeats over and over as we shake our booties to the beat.

Inspired by the singers words, some “Christian Ladies” are putting a “(Purity Ring On It).” They say, forget you boys, show your love to God with a purity ring.

|A Christian gURL wants to know: Is it okay to masturbate if you’re saving yourself?|

While abstinence can be great for so many, do you think that these gURLs are actually doing themselves a disservice? Um, can’t we just have relationships and sex in peace? Or do you think it’s about time that teens encourage each other to abstain from intercourse?

Check out the video below, and share your thoughts.


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  • DJ

    I am 23 and I am not waiting because of God. I have plenty of other things to focus on in my life, and there are plenty of reasons for me to wait.

  • K

    abstinence is fine (i am myself) but seriously? “cant get ta heaven cuse another brother noticed me”? “If you love me put a purity ring on it”? this is messed up! if you’er gonna have sex it souldn’t matter if your marryed or not and making people guilt ridden isn’t going to help

  • Macie

    Sex is so much more than feelings for eachother! When you have sex, you and the other person’s heart become one. If you break up, he will literally take a part of your heart with him. I have a purity ring and I’m so happy I do!

    • Bethanne

      I don’t think he will “literally” take part of your heart. That would probably require surgery and I’m sure a lot of medical/surgical training.

      I think waiting till marriage is a personal decision and that no one should be pressured into it, or feel the need to show off their virgin status through an external symbol (ie: the ring). If you feel as if that is important to you, then ok, but I also ask… where is the pressure for males to wait for marriage and/or wear a “purity” ring?

      I also think purity is so much more than just sex and that this whole concept severely limits the notion of purity which is not cool in my books, as purity is about thinking pure thoughts (and not just in a sexual way, but also jealousy, anger, etc.), being kind, patient and forgiving, and so much more!

  • suziQ

    I absolutely love the idea of purity rings and everything they stand for 🙂 If you want to know more, read If “You Really Loved Me” or “Every Young Woman’s Battle”.

  • Jess

    I just don't understand why people think that God would care about their sex lives if he was real.

    • anna-cat

      That’s what I was thinking. It’s not that important, ladies.

    • Marie

      You’re so right! Other than the “if he was real” part, I agree completely.

  • Meggi

    Personally, I don't like it. If you have made a personal decision not to have sex until you are married, great, but you are allowed to change your mind, and programs that exist giving teens purity rings are forcing that ideal on teens. Also, the word 'purity' implies that it's bad to have sex before marriage, which. if it's a conscious and responsible decision, is just fine. I think it's great that some gURLS have respect for themselves to save it, but to have sex before marriage is an equally valid decision and no gURL should be forced into either!

  • Alysha

    I don't really see the point of purity rings. I mean the ring is signifying that you're saving yourself for the one you love. If you love someone and you want to have sex with them why would you have to wait untill you're married?

    • Macie

      There is the possibility of breaking up. How many times do you find a guy you “love”? A lot. So if you had sex with everyone one of those guys, then that’s slutish. When you have sex, you become one with the other spiritually. If you break up, you are torn in half. The choice of being married is a commitment to eachother that you are a forever thing.