i want to buy a vibrator, but i’m under 18! what do i do?

dear heather,
you say it’s perfectly fine to use a vibrator or dildo to masturbate, but a lot of us are under 18 and have no means of getting one. is there any way to get one without being 18? what should we do?

While there are no laws that say a gURL must be a certain age to buy a vibrator or dildo, some Southern states prohibit selling them, and most sex shops throughout the country only allow people 18 years or older to enter their stores. Luckily, this doesn’t have to stop a gURL from masturbating with a sex toy.

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Assuming you don’t have a credit card and can’t order a sex toy online, the easiest way to get a standard vibe if you’re under 18 is at a gift store like Spencer’s, which can legally sell sex toys to anyone, since they’re being sold as novelty items.

Then there’s stores with pharmacies like Walgreen’s, CVS, Walmart, Target, etc. that sell “personal massagers.” These products are a bit more discreet–as they can technically be used for anywhere on the body–and make for excellent vibrators. In fact, one of the most popular sex toys out there is the Hitachi Magic Wand Massager, and it’s marketed as an “electric massager.”

If you’re terrified of someone ever finding your sex toy, you can keep it on the DL by using everyday items such as electrical toothbrushes or electric razors; simply rub or rest the base (nothing sharp!) on your clitoris. A hand-held shower head works the same way; just keep a steady flow on your sensitive areas.

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As far as dildos go, many females will only have an orgasm when the clitoris is directly stimulated, instead of the indirect pressure that typically occurs with a penis. For this reason, I suggest your first explore masturbation without penetration before moving on to an object you’d insert inside of you. It’s just easier.

And don’t forget: Just know that using any appliance in a way that’s not intended by the manufacturer can be risky. There’s always the chance that you can get an infection or hurt this way, so I wouldn’t suggest this as the best way to masturbate. The safest, most discrete object you can use to get off is your very own hand. Not only is it the best way to get to know your own body, it’s safe and 100% free.

take care,
heather

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  • betty

    help me get one

  • betty

    how can I get a vibrator

  • Ariane

    I bought this Neutrogena vibrating thing to exfoliate my face, but the way it works, the bristly thing comes off and it’s completely smooth underneath. You have two settings and it’s pretty quiet. You can buy it at any pharmacy and no one will know: it also works great on the skin when you use it for real! It’s only for clitoral stimulation as the shape is too weird to go inside (for me). I don’t remember the name but it’s not the Wave, the packaging and vibrator is white. Hope this helps!