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Henry here, answering your questions only a guy can answer. Today’s question got me angry a little. We’ll get to that in a moment. Anyhow, lfdk;sajf; writes: how do i know if a guy is gay?
And here’s the part that made me sad, a user’s response from Miah Stone, who says:
-The guy wears tight clothes
-Always stares at other guys’ ‘private’ parts
-Clothes are a bit feminine
-Says things like ‘You go, girlfriend!’
Miah, my friend, this could not be further from the truth. Instead, this is a stereotype of gay men, and not how you can tell one for sure. In fact, Henry has a few pals who are gay guys and gals alike, and I can guarantee you that there’s no defining characteristic. Just how straight people come in different shapes, sizes, colors, personalities, religions, and well, everything else, gay guys and gURLs do too!
When you really think about it, being gay is just a preference, just how Henry prefers his pizza topped with ham, pineapple, and a side of hot sauce. You might like yours with pepperoni, but it doesn’t really define who we are.
So for every Glee-loving fashionista gay out there, remember that somewhere, there’s his parkour-jumping, football obsessed counterpart — which if you ask me, is the cool thing about living in a world where everyone’s different.
Now, to answer the real question: The only way to really know if a guy is gay or straight is to ask them. It can be a touchy subject, especially if a guy is in his teen years and still trying to figure it all out. So, my best advice is not to ask. Instead, make him know you’re comfortable with the person he is, because when he’s ready enough to admit it to himself, he’ll also be able to admit it to you.
So, what other guy questions can I help you with this week? Ask your Q here!
Can You Trust Him?
I like gay guys and the picture up there is kinda hot but I seen more hot guys
so im a guy and im gay, and i really like this guy he is 2 years younger than m i can’t tell if he is gay or if he is bi,or possibly straight and we kiss and do other things i need help.
Ok so there’s this cute guy I like in my Astronomy Class and and I don’t know
If he’s gay or not he likes working out ALOT and he’s quite and I’ve known him since I was a freshmen and have never seen him with a girlfriend
I’ve been dating this guy for 4months now and we have not been intimate, we kiss but thats as far as it goes. He states his marriage ended when he told his wife after 20 years of being married that he was abused as a child by another man , but continued this relationship with that man well into adulthood. He has made comments that admiring a mans good body doesnt make him gay. He has a lot of feminine to him even though he has a deep masculine voice.Should I be concerned? Is he just covering up and wanting to be with me to play it off to the world that he is straight now that his wife left him? feeling very confused…..
HE IS SO GAY. He continued a relationship with his abuser. I hope you don’t think they only get together to exchange recipes for homemade biscuits.
I have a crush on this guy, but I can’t really tell if he’s gay or straight. He’s very clean-cut, and closer with girls than guys. He also plays clarinet, and most guys that play clarinet are usually gay.
“Most guys that play clarinet are usually gay.”
Um….what? Lol. Gurl, you cannot judge a book by it’s cover. Well, to be honest, in some cases you can. But you can’t just assume that this guy is gay because he ‘is very clean cut, and closer with girls than guys’, and he plays clarinet. Don’t get me wrong, your guy could be gay, any of the guys you know could, really. But there aren’t really ‘gay’ characteristics, hobbies, or anything of the sort.
Coming from someone who has all sorts of gay, straight, and bisexual, friends.
I’ll tell you that if you’re close to him, tell him how you feel, and if he denies you, take it well and politely ask if there’s a reason. Maybe he likes someone else, or tells you that he’s gay. (Or straight.)
Anyway, if you’re not close enough to him to ask, or be able to come to a conclusion, you probably want to get to know him better.
The ‘worst’ that happens, is you make a new gay friend.
And is that really bad?
I’m confused, i’m attracted 2 both male nd female. I tink I’m gradually slipping away from being gay
I like this guy at my school, really like him, not just some non sensual crush, a real like that really gets to me. I’m gay, but don’t know weather he is in any way, it’s so frustrating because the situation i’m in can be depressing for me. We looked at each other once and seriously, it’s like we both blushed and looked away, well I quickly looked away, he kept staring for a second … Was an awesome feeling. There are these other times where he’s actually talked to me, i’m the loner, quiet guy at school, no friends, yet he would talk to me out of all the 1900 students out my school. You know all these signs I think i’m seeing are probably just some delusion i’m building to make it true, but I can’t help but get that feeling that he kind of, in a secret way he doesn’t know, likes me. Help me please?
Try to seduce him, see if he will fall for u
im in the same situation as you. i would suggest that you become good friends with him and start hanging out with him alot. if he seems happy about this and wants to hangout with you thats probably a good time. once you think you two are good enough friends you should tell him how you feel. if your too afraid to do so just tell him your gay. if he is gay too he will take you confiding in him as a sign that you like him and if he likes you back he’ll let you know
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Okay so I like this guy and he says he likes me too, but I truly think he’s gay..he says things like “you go girl” and “you doin it girl go” and he always jokes about how he’s gay but I don’t think he’s joking! He has like ALL guy friends and he doesn’t really act like a guy would..I’m not sure how to explain it but it’s bugging me!
no good
I like these guys but I don’t know who’s gay in mu school everyone is so defensive and mean but I just cant tell who’s gay :/
this guy he tryed to kiss me and he has a girlfriend
Okay so I have this situation where I like this boy that ive known for almost 2 yrs. And to me he never came off gay but eveyone thinks hes gay b/c of some rumors that he let a boy suck…and that he did a boy in the butt,and also maybe b/c his personality hes a really nice person and fun to b round and he says he likes me too I called and asked if he was gay and if the rumors were true he says no calmly and nondefensively but idk if I should believe him or not…im confused:/
Ok you guys theres this guy ,he says stuf like”what the fugde” all the time,and the other day he was busy screaming(crying) coz he lost hez uncle,he also eats these dressing salads that would never fill up my tummy,he eats very light for a straight guy and he says he has a girlfriend but theres no girl that has ever been to he’s place,then therz hez male fwends which are very loud n scream all the time and it irritates me.he listens to beyonce almost the whole night.could i be homophobic? And is these guy gay? And why does he get to me so much!
K but no 1 is givin advice,well Nandia! U really asking the public for these,love the name “anonymous N” like i told you he is gay,i went to high school with him,he just hasnt accepted it yet,you know how peoe judge,the poor guy is just scared to come out and why are you botherd? We got our traiyals tomorrow
Only you can decide if you are a homophobic.
If you read the article again, you will see that you cant just answer a question like “is this guy gay”. The best advice I have found on this topic is in the final paragraph.
He gets to you bcoz you are picking out all of the things that must make him gay. when in reality, what he is likes is just his preference. He may be more feminine then other guys, but that doesn’t make him a homosexual.
Have an open mind my friend, You will find acceptance a great choice
I like this guy but idk if hes gay. He know im gay and that i like him but he doesnt care. Does he except that im gay and that i like him evne though he is straight or could he possible like me too?
I have the exact same situation. He gives me lots of eye contact btw. Any ideas how to deal with this??!
The only way to find out is to ask him how he feels about this situation. It may be really awkward to begin with, but you never know how its gonna turn out. which is also why you should be cautious, bcoz you dont want to risk losing a friendship, as sometimes this can happen. I am only warning bcoz sometimes advice doesn’t always work out as planned. So I am not going to elaborate on what to say or do, or how to approach it.
You obviously know this guy pretty well. So I am sure you will find the appropriate way to raise the question.
I’m afraid that’s all I can say. But I hope everything works out
I think if you ask him out on a date he might say yes, but if your shy it can be hard to do. I have allways been a shy guy and find it hard to ask guys out but if you just go for it things might work out, if you really like him and you truly think he might like you you should ask him out.
Hi, so it goes like this, theres this really cute kid that I think I like at school , but in everyones eyes he’s straight. But he keeps bothering me all the time and I hit him and tell him to stop bothering me but he doesnt, and sometimes people tell him to hit me but he says that im too cute to get hit by him, also we almost kissed once if it werent because I kinda stoped him, so im confused.. Does he like me?? And apart from that he keeps touching and graving my hand and its CONFUSING ME!!!!D: so shpuld I go with what people say or should I go with what I think, which is that I think he likes me??
Go with your gut. If you like him, then you could get to know him. You never know what could happen. Go with your gut! If you make a fool out of yourself then thats okay, you took a risk, if you don’t then you could really get to know each other. If you know what I mean, hope that didn’t sound dirty.