My boyfriend is off at college this year and I miss him so much. We are both very strong Christians and don’t believe in having sex until marriage. Even though this is the case I still get horny, especially now that he is gone. I know it’s normal to feel this way but it’s so embarrassing because I don’t think any of my friends ever feel this way. I love reading about sex and masturbation and I’ve even tried actually masturbating. I just feel like such a freak after I do it. I need someone to tell me I am normal. Please, a 17-year-old girl should not have to feel so guilty.
Please don’t feel guilty! That may be easier said than done because you were raised to think that it’s wrong, but gURL, there is nothing wrong with being horny, touching yourself, pleasuring yourself, checking out other naked people…masturbating is such a normal and great thing. If you’re horny, masturbate!
Any dirtiness you might feel is totally normal too — isn’t that part of the fun of it? That it’s a moment of pure selfish indulgence? How is that any different from taking time to put on a face mask or sit in a bathtub for half an hour or read a book from cover to cover? I might add that those times are also great for masturbating!
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I hope you see that there is no harm to yourself or other people by rubbing one out. And especially in a long distance relationship, I think keeping yourself sexually satisfied is extremely important.
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