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I recently started dating my longtime crush, but there’s a problem. I mostly hang out with guys because they’ve always been there for me. My friends are perverts and my boyfriend doesn’t approve of their behavior. Now my boyfriend’s threatening to break up with me if I don’t stop hanging out with them, but they’re not making any unwanted gestures. I don’t want to leave them, but maybe he’s right. I don’t know what to do. Can you help?
Ask yourself who you can picture being in your life the longest: your boyfriend or your boy friends? If you are head-over-heels in love and you feel fairly confident that the relationship isn’t a fleeting crush, maybe he’s worth holding on to.
On the other hand, if your guy friends are your best, best, best friends and not just dudes you crack jokes with in the back of math class, you might decide that friendship is more important to you than your flavor of the month.
Regardless of what you decide, making you choose between him and your friends is a pretty low move on your boyfriend’s part. Ever heard the phrase, “Bros before hos?” Not to say that your boyfriend is a “ho” — of course he isn’t — but it is pretty solid advice. If your boyfriend is jealous, explain to him that they’re just friends and that you’re dating him, not them, for a reason.
take care,
heather
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