so embarrassing: my mom caught me masturbating and took off my door!

dear heather,
Ok so this is kind of embarrassing but, i like to rub my clit on the side of my bed, but my mom walked in on me and yelled at me and now she took off my door and set up a camera in my room. I THINK SHE WENT TOO FAR! How can i convince her that im old enough to masturbate without her knowing? (by the way im 13) HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Talking about masturbation anywhere else may be embarrassing, but on gURL.com, we’re all about it. I’m glad you could come to me, because, as you seem to know at your core, there is nothing wrong with masturbating and I’m really glad you know that.D

Convincing your mom, on the other hand, is a different matter.  Without any snarkiness, might I suggest you hand off your mom an article on masturbation? Perhaps this one, written by gURL.com’s own Ellen Friedrichs, will do? Since she’s a sex education teacher, perhaps your mom will see that the source is clearly trustworthy!  If you think our article won’t do, I think it would be wise to find the right piece of literature to pass off to her with a bit of internet reconnaissance.

|do you have an embarrassing confession? this gURL fessed that she’d  hump tables in pre-school! |

Another option is communicating with her directly. Tell her, as adult-like and detached as possible, that you’re sorry she saw you in a moment when you needed privacy, but that you would like her to reconsider her reaction to it. That, like any person, privacy is important and not just because you want to sit in there an jerk-off all day (even if it is true), but because it’s the respectful thing to do.

take care,
heather

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21 Comments

  1. avatarMr.Damyan says:

    I have a very embarassing story.. When I was 14 years old, my also 14 year old niece came to visit us from japan. So when she arrived our guest room didn’t have anything in it yet, so she had too sleep in my room. Later that night she went downstaidownstairs to brush her teeth. I thought that I still had time to “Beat the meat”, so I layed down on my bed while watching porn on my phone and started jerking it. I was almost finished, when my niece barged in the room because she forgot her toothbrush. We were litteraly staring into eachothers eyes when I shot my stuff in the air :$. Then she just grabbed her toothbrush without saying anything and gave me a really weird smirk while leaving the room. I felt so awkward later on.. Then we went to sleep that night, and she suddenly says to me: “It was really big.” I said that I don’t want to speak about it anymore. Then she walks up to my bed, went under my cover and started sucking member!! I didn’t know what to do, I felt super weird! I haven’t really spoken to her since..

  2. avatarGia says:

    You can be sure your mother masturbated when she was young. It is a natural thing to do. Just read the comments all the girls on this site that masturbate. I started masturbating when I was very young and my mom did not get angry with me. She told me it was a natural part of growing up. Your mother is extremely cruel!

  3. avatarBree says:

    just do it in the shower. :3 thats wat i do

  4. avatarlouisa miller says:

    Omg, wow ive been caught.. mums walk way too quiet, they dont even knock for gods sake! And if they ever do they still walk in without waiting for a reply!

  5. avatarjames says:

    that sucks and im a boy all of my friends do it !!!

  6. avatarKatie says:

    That’s incredibly unfair. Try to explain to your mom why you need privacy, like to get dressed and such, and don’t even broach the subject of masturbating. If she doesn’t go for it, just find a different place to masturbate, like the bathroom, when you shower or something. She’ll never know!

  7. avatarAvril says:

    i ALMOST got walked in on 2 times! It was a close call but I was able 2 disguise it easily thank goodness. My sister came in one time right after i was don and was like “whatcha doin?” and i was like “ooh nothin” and then once my dad came in right before and was like “Whys it so dark?” and i was like “i was gonna take a nap” lolz! idk watd id say if i did get caught, but hopefully that wont happen. i make sure no one is upstairs while i am though so no one decides to randomly walk in on me

    • avatarMegan says:

      Oh gosh! I got walked in on twice, but I don’t think they knew what I was doing. But if they did, they didn’t really talk bout it. Lol I was so freaking scared that they would get mad at me. Now I’m gonna be more careful. Why do parents have to walk so quietly? Lolol

  8. avatartrinity says:

    talk to your mother about how you feel. she may disagree about you being old enough ( my mother would love me not even having sexual thoughts and i’m 18) but there’s no reason she shouldn’t agree to you having some privacy.

  9. avatarStacie says:

    ahahah, these comments made me laugh!! I have been walked in on too! And there isn’t a lock on my door, which sucks! Lol maybe try playin with your self when no body’s home!

  10. avatarabby says:

    tell her it's better to masturbate than to be actually having sex with a boy.

    I have never gotten caught but the day that I do, I will tell my mom that at least I'm being safe and I'm practicing abstinence!

  11. avatarudontnned2knomyname says:

    masturbate in the shower or something so she wont get suspicious and also no one can put a camera in a bathroom that everyone uses!!

  12. avatarTaylor McDuggan says:

    hahahahhaahhahahahahaha

  13. avatarMiranda says:

    hate to tell you girls but not everyone has a lock on their door!!! i didnt get one untill i put one in myself and if her mom has gone as far as removing her door do you really think she would give her the freedom to lock it? the only thing i can suggest is calmly explaining that it is your body and you should be free to do what you like with it so long as it doesnt hurt anyone and doesnt affect your appearance to which your mother would have to approve. it is your body and it is your right to do with your privates what you will if its an issue of religion just tell her god gave me free will what right do you have to take it away

  14. avatarLee says:

    Next time just lock the door.

    And if she sais no just do it in the bathroom or any other room like everyone els sais.

    But you should talk to her about It's really unfair she went way to far.

  15. avatarXtasy says:

    that totally sucks..getting caught and all..i recommend sneaking behind her back because its none of her buisness anyway that should be personal maybe you should try going to the bathroom..in the bathtub or something

  16. avatarCourtnee says:

    i think its totally okay to do that. i mean i do it.

    but again my parents have never caught me

    im 16 and will i say tak to your mom!

    taking the door off, way to far.

    i mean i'd still do it but in my bathroom! haha

    but you do need to talk to her and i bet she DID do it when she was little

    but you have to give he credit, her babies growing up and thats kind of a hard thing to face for your parents

    it might have scared her. but, again talk to her in to at least taking the camera out? haha

    and you need a door! hello?! um you need to change..in privicy?

  17. haha thats what you get

  18. avatarnadya says:

    wow thats actually really unfair i bet you alot of money that ur mum masturbated at your age too. its normal isnt it? so i think that maybe you should talk to your mum about it or in the future go into the bathroom or another room with a lock. or you could do it when no ones home so theres no chance of anyone walkingin on you. hope that helps!

  19. avatarMegan says:

    Maybe next Time Lock yoour Door!

    Or Go In to A room Where there is a lock.

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