so embarrassing: my mom caught me masturbating and took off my door!

dear heather,
Ok so this is kind of embarrassing but, i like to rub my clit on the side of my bed, but my mom walked in on me and yelled at me and now she took off my door and set up a camera in my room. I THINK SHE WENT TOO FAR! How can i convince her that im old enough to masturbate without her knowing? (by the way im 13) HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Talking about masturbation anywhere else may be embarrassing, but on gURL.com, we’re all about it. I’m glad you could come to me, because, as you seem to know at your core, there is nothing wrong with masturbating and I’m really glad you know that.D

Convincing your mom, on the other hand, is a different matter.  Without any snarkiness, might I suggest you hand off your mom an article on masturbation? Perhaps this one, written by gURL.com’s own Ellen Friedrichs, will do? Since she’s a sex education teacher, perhaps your mom will see that the source is clearly trustworthy!  If you think our article won’t do, I think it would be wise to find the right piece of literature to pass off to her with a bit of internet reconnaissance.

|do you have an embarrassing confession? this gURL fessed that she’d  hump tables in pre-school! |

Another option is communicating with her directly. Tell her, as adult-like and detached as possible, that you’re sorry she saw you in a moment when you needed privacy, but that you would like her to reconsider her reaction to it. That, like any person, privacy is important and not just because you want to sit in there an jerk-off all day (even if it is true), but because it’s the respectful thing to do.

take care,
heather

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  • craig clarkson

    When I was 14yrs old I was sunbathing in my back garden I must of fell asleep, because when I opened my eyes I saw my younger sister and her two friends playing with my penis. I know I should of told them to stop but I just shut my eyes and let them carry on with what they was doing to me.
    I eventually cum for them and that’s when I herd my mums voice saying Craig put that thing away then she drags me off the floor and takes me upstairs into the bathroom and gives me a shower and as she’s doing washing me she also smacking my bum for being naughty for allowing my sister and her friends to play with my penis. She grounded me for a week and my sister just got told not to do it again, but that same evening when my mum was having a bath. I had got up to get a drink I’d just finished pouring it when out of nowhere my sister pulls my boxer shorts down I just stepped out of them and walked back into the lounge naked I had already noticed that my penis had gone hard I just sat down next to my sister and smiled, saying to her if you want to touch my penis it’s ok with me.

  • Weirdo Weekend

    help my mum caught me masterbating (i think) And I Heard her whispering with my dad about me (btw im 10)