Sexting can be a bad thing — but it depends on how you go about it. If you’re sending sexy pictures of yourself or sending sexy messages to someone you’ve been in a relationship with and/or someone whom you really trust, there’s typically no harm in it, since odds are the sexts won’t get out. Plus, many gURLs see sexting as a way to get closer with their partner, especially if they’re in long distance relationships.

But if you’re “obsessed” with sexting, as you say you are, you need to be really careful. For one, are you sending sexts to more than one person at a time? If so, you run the risk of word getting out about your “chronic” sexting, and you can get a bad reputation, or worse — pictures of yourself topless dispersed on the internet. Not fun.

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Also, it’s important to realize why you “can’t control yourself,” as you say. Do you think guys only like you because you send them sexy texts? Or do you feel better about yourself by talking dirty and/or sending dirty pictures to guys? If so, there’s clearly a deeper underlying issue here that has little to do with the actual act of sexting.

But, in general, just know that sexting often does not make you weird, perverted, or overly-sexual. It just means you’re open about your sexuality, which is good! As long as you’re being careful and selective about whom you sext, I wouldn’t worry too much. Just don’t accidentally send one to your mom or teacher, OK?!

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take care,
heather

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