So I met this guy a couple of days ago and we talked for like a half hour and flirted and he was really nice. Then we texted for a little bit and he added me on facebook. Yes, I know, facebook is facebook and cannot always be trusted but I did notice that he was commenting on a lot of girl’s pictures and statuses and flirting with them. He told me he wasn’t a player but had a lot of girl friends that he considered just friends. Then as we talked more I found out he smokes, and has had sex and drives a motorcycle. None of these things bother me a lot but I’m a little wary. I mean, I’ve never had a serious boyfriend so I feel very inexperienced. Plus, I’m a total goody-goody, I’ve never gotten in any form of trouble. So I don’t know what to do. I know my parents would totally disapprove but still. Should I go
out with him or just stop before anything does start?
It’s seems like the more you learn about this guy, the worse he sounds. If he’s writing all of girls profiles and pictures on Facebook, imagine what his inbox must look like! If his wall posts sound more serious than fleetingly friendly posts, be weary (good: “Hey, what’s up, how are you?” bad: “Girl, you look SO SEXY in this pic. HOT!”).
Rebellious guys have a certain appeal, and the fact that your parents would disapprove might make him sound even more tempting. But make sure you think about whether you want to go out with him because he sounds great or because he’s everything you’re not (into sex, into smoking, into riding motorcycles).
Unless you absolutely cannot get him out of your mind, move on. If you can’t stop thinking about him, approach with caution. Go ahead and hang out with him to see if he’s as great as you think he might be, but don’t get into any situations where you might do more than you want (that goes for everything from sex to drugs, drinking to motorcycles).
Lastly, remember there’s nothing wrong with being a goody-goody. People go through life experiences at different times in their lives, and not drinking or smoking or having sex might not be right for you right now.
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