they're on and off more times than a light switch at a cheap rave

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth broke up and got back together (and then broke up again). Evan Rachel Wood and Marilyn Manson tried time and time again. Speidi…don’t even get me started.

On and off relationships happen, a lot. Are you in that postion with your sweetie right now?  If you want to get back with your ex, listen up, because I’ve got some advice for you.

The key word here is change. If neither you nor your ex has changed, what’s the point in rehashing the past? You already know it’s broken. If one (or both) of you has become more respectful, more considerate, more whatever, then you might want to take a chance…because maybe one of you learned something that will ultimately change your relationship for the better.

Have you ever gotten back with an ex? Did it work out? Let me know by posting in the comments below.

And remember, if you have a question, ask me! Just shoot an email to askanexpert@gurl.com. I’ll be listening.

Love,
Lena

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