both madonna and britney are gay icons, but no one ever accused brit-brit or madge of being a lesbian

Kim sees a lot of gay bullying at her school, but she’s scared to do anything about it, because she thinks the bullies will turn on her, too. The world needs a lot more Kim’s though! While doing the right thing is good, no one said it’s easy.  I am straight, and a strong queer rights advocate and I too, have suffered from my share of put downs and bullying, online and in person.

So if you’ve found yourself ridiculed for standing up for gay rights, or anything you feel is right, here are some tips to not let them get you down or give them fuel for their waning fires.

Is homophobic bullying a problem at your school? Tell us what happened! And, what’s your advice for Kim?

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Love,
Lena

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