advice gURL: i love my bestie…i think?

some of us are "krisbians," but what happens when a gURL crush hits a little closer to home?

carly3vans likes her best gURL friend. Only, she doesn’t know if she loves her as a friend…or something more. Any advice for a confused gURL?

She writes:

Im kinda scared to say this but.. I think im in love with my best friend : \

I cry when we argue, i get jealous if shes out with others and not me because i want to be with her..

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We spend nearly everyday with each other and I havent seen her for 3 days and its upsetting.. We sleep over each others ahve a laugh and smile.

I dont like girls but I feel that way about her..

I dont want to risk our friendship id be devastated if we wernt friends 🙁

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What can I do ? thanks alot xx

Have you ever had a crush on your best friend? Were you unsure if it was friendship or something more? If you have any advice for carly3vans, shout it out in the comments below!


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  • Ana

    honestly i think every gurl goes thru a time wher they think they might be a lesbo

  • I believe gay is a spectrum. It's not either you like boys only or you cut off all of your hair and start wearing flannel year round. Each person falls somewhere on the spectrum. I think basically you need to talk to her. I've confused friendship for love so many times and it's painful. But then I ended being in this position. I talked to her and we both felt the same about each other but we both felt it would be awkward. It also happened another time that I was sure it was a crush, but I didn't tell her. I regret it every day of my life. I wish I would have told her. So all you have to do is talk to her. you could just start out like "have you ever thought about dating a girl?" or something simple like that. I'm gay and I know how confusing it can be, so I wish you the best of luck and a lot of love 🙂

  • Alex

    I was in the exact same position almost a year ago. I felt the same way, i would get jealous if she would go out with others and I always wanted to be with her. I have never been attracted to girls, and I was so scared to tell her about how I felt. But amazingly…she broke the ice first and admitted that she has a crush on me. I was a little shocked, and then I told her that i felt the same way. We have been dating since July, and we have both agreed that we can date other guys if we find someone. But so far we haven't, and it has been wonderful