My boyfriend told my best friend that im kind of flat. Which I am and im not going
to lie.. I don’t want to be a size C thats to big for me.. And he makes fun of me to
my best friend about that and she agrees with him.. She tells me every thing what
they talk about and what he says about me.. And I think it’s sorta hurt full.
Wow, gURL, that is hurtful! I’m really proud of you for being proud of your body. No matter what size your boobs are, big or little, what’s most important is that you feel good about yourself. It sucks that in this case, it’s not bad body image that’s bringing you down, it’s a bad boyfriend and bff. Teasing you affectionately is one thing, but talking about you behind your back is mean-spirited, and not what someone who loves you does– and that goes for both your boyfriend and best friend.
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Let’s start on your best friend. Why is she talking to him? What are her motives? Did you ask her to talk to him? Because honestly, it’s entirely inappropriate for her to be talking to him about your relationship, your boobs, and how he feels about you. It just is. So it makes me wonder, is she jealous of your relationship? Are her intentions good? Is she as good of a friend as you thought? If she’s mean enough to agree with him about your boob size, then is she mean enough to sabotage you? The thing is, I’m basing my advice on what to do with your boyfriend on the fact that you 100% trust your friend and that she’s telling the truth. Sometimes, “friends” have ulterior motives that are not in your best interest. If she has a crush on him, for instance, she could be stretching the truth or making it up entirely.
So, there’s only one way to find out how to stand up for yourself and make them respect you as well. All three of you need to talk. Together. At once. In a room. Don’t do it on conference call. Don’t do it on Skype. You need to see both of their reactions when you say “Boyfriend, Best Friend told me that you don’t think my flat chest is attractive. I think that I deserve to be with someone who loves me for who I am and I feel hurt that either of you would say that about me behind my back.” Memorize that. Say that. See what their reactions are. If your BFF’s intentions were good, you should make it clear that she shouldn’t meddle in this or any future relationship again.
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And here’s what I’ll leave you with: a lot of dudes think little boobs are hot. Some prefer them! If this dude doesn’t, tell him to date someone else because you’re not going to waste your time on a guy who doesn’t respect your boobs or your relationship.
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