The other day I had sex with my boyfriend of 5 months for the first time. The first time we did it he wore a condom. He said he didn’t like wearing them so the second and third time he didn’t, but I didn’t mind it though. Even if he pulls out before “going” does that mean there’s anything in my vagina or am I just paranoid? And is it true that if you feel full after sex that some cum got in there?
Pulling out, the withdrawal method, or coitus interrupts, is one of the oldest (and cheapest!) forms of birth control. However, it’s so ineffective, there’s really no control involved in it and it ends up causing a lot of pregnancies and STIs.
Yes, it is true that if your boyfriend pulls out before he ejaculates, and no sperm enters your vagina, you will not get pregnant. However, that’s a huge IF. Semen can be released unknowingly during sex. The key word here is unknowingly — you can’t feel it. Especially if you are having sex multiple times in a short period, the leftover sperm from a former ejaculation could be present in his pre-come could get you pregnant. Furthermore, because you and your boyfriend are inexperienced with sexual intercourse, he may not know his body well enough to stop before the time is right…which would mean sperm entering your vagina with no way of stopping it.
While I’m glad you’re “paranoid” about getting pregnant, it concerns me that you are not worried about contracting STDs. The withdrawal method does not protect against STDs or HIV. And even the cleanest, most sperm-free pre-come can still transmit those diseases.
As for feeling “full” after sex, it’s more likely that air is trapped in your vaginal cavity than anything else. While yes, you can feel come in your vagina (and see it when it drips out!), there is generally only about a half-teaspoon to a teaspoon’s worth of it in an ejaculation — not enough to cause a feeling of “fullness.”
It also, and most importantly, concerns me that you’re willing to have sex with someone who refuses to wear condoms. As the old saying goes, “If you really love her, wear a cover!” Your boyfriend should be treating you with enough respect to be concerned about protecting you (both) from pregnancy and STDs.
Overall, if you are continuing to have sex with him, I strongly recommend that you go to your doctor or a clinic in order to obtain some form of birth control. An ounce of prevention is much better than a pound of pregnancy tests!
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