Going through a tough time with your sweetie can reveal a lot about them. Going through a pregnancy and raising a child? Yea, it’ll reveal a LOT. Unfortunately for Christinna, the subject of this week’s 16 & Pregnant, it revealed a total dud of a dude.
Freshly filed for divorce, Christinna refuses to let it get her down or stop her from achieving her dreams while still being the best mom to her daughter, Destiny. Read on for gURL’s exclusive interview with Christinna:
Isiah, your baby daddy, caused some drama for you.
Isiah goes back and forth between being supportive – it’s almost like he goes through phases. Sometimes he’s on top of things, and I couldn’t ask for more, and other times it seemed like I was doing EVERYTHING. I’ve had to fight with Isiah to get him to put our family 1st and spend time with Destiny, just like Maci [Season One of 16& Pregnant] had to do with Ryan.
Do you feel you can relate to Maci’s issues with Ryan?
Isiah and Ryan both went through a time where they were being immature and refused to step up and be a dad and husband, or fiancé in Maci’s case. I completely understand the struggles Maci went through with her relationship with Ryan. She inspires me, and helps me remember to stay strong and always put Destiny first. I always think “if she can do it then I can too!”
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So are you and Isiah going to make it work?
Shortly after my episode was finished filming, Isiah and I separated and recently decided to get a divorce. At first he came to visit Destiny every single day he had off from work and he supported her financially in any way he possibly could. Ever since we officially decided to get a divorce and stopped talking, he hasn’t come to visit Destiny or helped financially in over a month. It’s almost like Destiny and I were a package deal, and now that were not together, he doesn’t have anything to do with her. It really hurts.
Wow, we’re really sorry to hear that after all you’ve been through together.
Being a teen parent is hard but words can’t describe how much I love Destiny, and there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for her. I wish Isiah could see how fun and rewarding being a parent can be.
We hope he’s reading this! Do you think a lot of guys out there are Ryan’s or Isiah’s? I don’t want to put all teenage fathers in the same category, but in Isiah’s case, he isn’t consistently supportive. Isiah is very selfish and it seems like he can never truly put Destiny 1st in his life. I think that when you have a child you have to make sacrifices, point blank period end of discussion. It hurts me when I have to literally beg Isiah to spend time with Destiny or change her diaper or help me buy her the things she needs. Destiny comes first in my life no matter what, and if I can make those sacrifices then why can’t he?
That’s true, being a parent has its share of major sacrifices. What has been the biggest sacrifice you’ve had to deal with so far?
I think I’ve had to give up just about everything since Destiny was born! Sometimes it seems like I can’t do anything alone. Destiny is content as long as I’m paying her attention but as soon as I do something by myself whether it’s eating, sleeping, reading or studying Destiny starts fussing.
What would you tell a teenager that wants to be a teen mom?
I would tell her to wait. If you’re really ready to be a mom then you’re ready to put your child first and part of putting your child first is providing for them the best you can. Finishing school and establishing a career before having children not only benefits yourself but it benefits your child. Creating a stable home is the best thing you can do for your child and most teenagers don’t have the maturity or resources to do so.
What advice would you give Christinna? Do you think she should demand more from Isiah? Let him go? Share your thoughts below.
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