Ask a Guy: How Do You Know If a Guy Likes You?

Hey gURLs, Henry’s back all weekend long to answer more of your questions just for guys.

Today, iluvyou12 asks: “How can you tell if a guy likes you? All of my friends have dated at least 2-3 guys, but I haven’t dated any. I’m 12 years old and I think that I’m ready to be in a relationship, but the thing is, my crush only talks to me if he’s joking.”

You kinda answered your own question! If a guy only talks to you when he’s joking, chances are he does like you. Guys may seem like they don’t have emotions, but the reality is, they’re just better at hiding them. And when it comes to hiding  your emotions, joking around or being a goofball is always the easiest way, especially if it’s at another’s expense.

Sure – you can’t assume every guy who makes a joke your way is in love with you, but pay extra special attention to the guys who are always going out of their way to make you laugh. Other ways to know: “the gaze” (direct eye contact guys can’t avoid when we’re into a girl), goofy smiles for prolonged periods of time (also unavoidable), and fixing his hair or clothing when he’s around you (but gay guys do this too…so that could get confusing if it’s your only telltale sign).

And if you’re still not sure, you can always do what my 5th grade crush did to me: Push a guy against a locker and blurt out “I like you. I want to kiss you right now.”

|But first, take this quiz to find out if your crush even knows you’re alive!|

Sometimes taking control of the situation is better than not knowing at all. And just think, even if he’s not into you, at least you know and can move on to the next guy.

And another note: At 12, you may feel like you’re ready to be in a relationship right now, but you have plenty of time to meet guys, have a crush, get crushed on, get rejected, reject, date, dump, make out and…”poke.”

|And if you’re confused about sex or the risks that go with it, definitely get informed before you try it out.|

That’s all for now. Have q’s only a guy can answer? Post a comment and you may see yours answered in my next post!



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  • KC

    I’m 12 years old in 7th grade and i found out that a guy likes me, and then after I found out I started to like them back, and we were friends for a bit, so I told him that l knew he liked me and I liked him, and we seemed to have some sort of chemistry for a short second, but then I told my bff about it and she told the whole school, so now my crush kinda hates me, but I’m getting mixed signals. He threw a soccer ball at me and my bff, but then I caught him staring at me a few times in class. And whenever I’m sitting or standing next to him, he gets all wide eyed and puts this akward look on his face. Does he like me or not? I’m so confused please help!

  • Fairy girl

    So I have had this crush on a really cute guy since like kindergarten and I start 7 th grade on Monday and I can’t tell if he likes me cause he’s always so nice to me even if I act like I hate him. I want to tell him I like him but I don’t know how and then my friends will freak out because they actually think that I hate him and I dont. HELP😱

  • Victoria

    I have recently noticed a really cute 14 year old guy at the park staring at me. but I don’t know if he is interested in me because I am 12 and he is one of those popular guys. He doesn’t talk to me but he is my neighbor. Please help

  • Victoria

    I have been going to the park and a soccer player and his friends would always be staring at me and don’t know if he likes me or not please help. My friend asked him but she haven’t told me what’s up.

  • izzo

    I’m in 7th grade and I’ve had a pretty big crush on this guy for about 6 months and I don’t know if he likes me back. One of my other friends had a crush on him, then she didn’t, then she did again, and now she said that she doesn’t like him for sure but I think she’s lying. When she originally liked him she would make a lot of sly comments about me liking him but she doesn’t do that anymore thankfully. All of my other friends thinks that the guy I have a crush on likes me back and they ship us and they even made a ship name. I honestly think that they ship us more than I do! There are 24 people that ship us; it’s insane! I only have one class with him but he talks to me A LOT; in the class and out of the class. Whenever we’re partners in class we always work great togehter and he’s touched me (not in the bad/wrong way or anything) a lot too. Whenever we talk while walking he always walks REALLY close to me and we always look at each other and then he’ll smile and I smile back(obiously). He usually always sits with me on the bus too, even if there are other seats open and I’m already sitting 3 people to a seat, so he basically sat un the isle just to sit next to me. He’s also complemented me before and even called me pretty. At times I think he likes me but there are other times when I’m not sure. Sometimes I see him talking with other girls and the girl seems to be flirting with him and he laughs and then I start to think that he likes her and not me. Also when I text him he doesn’t usually respond right away. One of my best friends and hardest shipper of mazzy(the ship name) says that it’s because he’s just trying to seem cool and not seem desperate, but idk. Does he like me?

    • ………..

      I think he likes you. Boys seem to flirt with other girls to get the girl he likes attention. Or he has no idea that the girls are flirting with him. I think you should show him that you like him.

  • ellay

    im just looking to meet people and it can be boys

  • ellay

    hi im 12 and looking for a boyfriend

  • anonymous

    I like this guy but he is in 10th grade my friends think he likes me but I don’t think he does. I have known him for like forever. He is always making me laugh, smile, and blush. He is always fixing his hair around me. I don’t know if he likes me and he walks with me when we are talking and joking. The problem is that my friend likes him and his brother likes me. My friend started liking him when she found out that I liked him. Now everytime I’m around him she comes and interrupts us. Some kids from my school have already told him I like him while i was standing next to them. He has been acting different around me since then and now he smiles when he passes by me. I’m confused does he like me or not?

  • Rebecca

    I just started highschool a few months ago and I have this guy that’s my best friend. About a month ago, I realized that I like him like that. I’m not to sure if he likes me back. My friends say that they think he does because we are always touching each other and goofing around in class. We have almost all of our classes together.
    He said to me that he wants me to think of him as a cool and funny guy and said that I am nice and funny. I know those are things friends say to each other but the context of it was different then normal. We have a bunch of inside jokes that are for only the two of us and we laugh about them all the time. We talk on the phone all the time before we go to bed. During our last conversation, he said that crazy attracts crazy to describe our relationship. How do I know if he likes me?

  • Lyxie

    I like this boy and I think he likes me. My friends say is sooo obvious that he likes me but I’m not so sure. He sits in front of me and he always talks to me, does jokes on me and looks me straight in the eye. I really love him and I’m in grade five. I dream about him all the time, advice?

    • Caroline

      I like a guy. His name is Hugh. We talk and joke a lot. I always catch him staring at me and he talks to me like he’s known me for more than a couple months. All the girls that approach him he kinda looks annoyed or cagey around. I really like him, but I can never be too sure that he likes me back. I think he does, though. Also he has a friend that he’s known forever and she’s in my art class. She always stares at me, just blankly. I’m a bit confused… 😐

    • ellay

      go what is in ur hart

  • Anonymous

    So, I like this guy. A LOT. We go to different schools but we talk/text/e-mail/skype all the time/whenever possible. We have so much in common it’s scary. (Btw, he’s a grade ahead of me (he’s in 9th)). He once told me he wanted to take me to a dance but they wouldn’t let 8th graders come. All my friends think he likes me, but I’m not so sure. Maybe when he said he wanted to take me to the dance he meant as just friends? Please help!

  • snickers306

    okay so theres this boy i like and i think he may like me too so we sit next to eachother in class and he always makes jokes looks me in the eye talks to me more than anyone and is super nice does he like me?

  • lex

    So there’s this guy named Michal. He is my crush. So for the musical I had to wear a dress and makeup for a seen.He was in the musical too. When he saw me he started staring at head to toe stare ing at me. And then he went up to me and said (Eaxct words said!)
    M: wow u should wear that dress every day
    Me: well I will hav to for tommorows proformence-
    M: I meant to school
    Me: Y?
    M: I don’t know (shrugs) u look like a princess.
    Me: um thank you
    Then later in other classes I hav with him I can catch him stare ing at me. Does he like me? But even if he does my friend likes him and is going to ask him out and so he is off limits and my friend will get mad @ me. But she doesn’t know I like him.

    • lex

      BTW I’m in middle school 6th grade

      • ellay

        so am i

    • ellay

      who cares what ur friends do

  • anominous

    I like a girl in my class and she likes me, but what do I do now? I’m only in fifth grade and I know were young. Students and even teachers talk about how cute we look together.

  • Morgan

    Okay, so my best friend, let’s call her “Kayla”, has a best guy friend, let’s call him “David”. At track meets, we all hang out. So between him and I, to me it feels like we have a connection. I don’t know if it’s mutual or what, but it’s definitely there for me. But Kayla and David have a special bond too, but it’s like 75 to 100 percent just-friends. She denies that she likes him, but I think she does at least a little bit. I’m not quite sure what to do, considering I like him. Any advice?