As we’ve learned from Maci, Bristol, Farrah and last week, Brooke, as well as the thousands of gURLs on the Shout Out Boards, being pregnant in high school isn’t exactly easy. There’s the douchebag baby daddies, the dropping out of school, the fighting with the parents — and for Felicia, featured on this week’s episode of 16 & Pregnant, there’s an uncomfortable, un-easy pregnancy and equally painful drama that ensues once baby Genesis is born.
No wonder she wishes she’d used protection. Felicia also talked to gURL about her “not supportive” baby daddy, why she thinks Sex Ed doesn’t help, and why “you’re stupid if you want to be pregnant.”
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When you found out you were pregnant, did you ever consider abortion or adoption?
No. I never thought of either. I don’t believe in abortion. My family doesn’t believe in abortion. I didn’t think about adoption because I felt that since I had made the choice to have sex I should take on the responsibility of taking care of my child.
Do you relate to any of the gURLs from past season of 16 & Pregnant?
Maci, mainly because of Ryan. My boyfriend has the same “I don’t care about anything” attitude. He’s not really supportive and not really helpful with Genesis. I’m the one who takes care of her all the time. I feel like if he wanted to he could help more when he comes home. I can’t even remember the last time he changed a diaper. I think he just thinks that’s my job – taking care of her.
Do you think all teenage guys are like that?
I think that even if they’re having a baby, most guys won’t change. Some girls think it will make them change, make things better than ever, that now they have a leash, but most guys don’t change just because they have a baby.
What’s the biggest thing you’ve had to give up since getting pregnant?
Probably my friends, because once I got pregnant I kind of lost all of them. I kind of just felt out of place with my friends, so I just didn’t feel comfortable and that’s what made me stop talking to them. They were all still trying to get me to do things I couldn’t do and I was like, “y’all don’t get it.”
Did you have sex education in your school?
Seeing the STDs in health class probably grossed some people out, but they showed that to us in freshman year and kids were already into sex. It probably would have been better if they’d taught us that earlier. I don’t think sex ed really helps. Kids will do what they want. Depending on the kids you hang around with, you’re going to do what they do. I think talking about protection would help and I think it would be good if all sex ed classes gave out condoms. I didn’t use anything, so I wish I did!
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Ok, so what’s it really like being pregnant that we won’t see on the show?
Well, I was very clumsy while I was pregnant. I don’t know what happens to you when you’re pregnant, but you get clumsy and forgetful — it’s harder to remember things and it’s harder to pay attention in class. It was annoying in school because the hallways would be crowded, so I’d have to cover my stomach or someone would hit it.
Also, I didn’t get big enough for maternity clothes, but I couldn’t fit into my regular pants either. There were a lot of times in school my stomach would hurt really bad because the buckle was too tight on my regular pants. It was really bad and I had these shoes that kind of looked like slippers, but they had rubber on the bottom and my school wouldn’t let me wear them, so I had to wear uncomfortable shoes and my feet hurt cause of the extra weight.
What would you tell a teenager that wants to be a teen mom?
That they’re stupid, because they don’t know the consequences or what’s going to happen; they don’t know what they’re going to have to give up, that they’re not ready even if they think they’re ready; and that they would wish that they didn’t want to get pregnant after it happened.
Do you have a bad baby daddy like Felicia? Do you agree that Sex Ed doesn’t really help? Tell us below.
Felicia’s episode of 16 & Pregnant is on Tuesday at 10pm on MTV. Come back after you’ve watched it and discuss…
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