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I really like this guy. We were friends for two years then went out for two months but now we are just friends again. I’m only 13 and he is 14, but I like him a lot. He has had sex three times already, and we’ve talked about having sex but I don’t know if I’m ready or if my body is ready. Should I wait? How do I know if I am ready?
If you’re wondering whether you’re ready to have sex with him, then you aren’t. It’s as easy as that. If you knew you were ready, you wouldn’t waste your time asking me because you wouldn’t care — and because you would just kinda know.
Do you really want to lose your virginity to a guy you once dated but are now “just friends” with? Wouldn’t you rather lose it to a guy who you’re head-over-heels for, and who’s head-over-heels for you? At 13, you’re young and you have a lot of living and loving ahead of you. Don’t jump into bed with the first guy who wants to have sex with you just because you can.
I’m not a doctor so I can’t tell you whether you’re body’s ready for sex or not, but I can tell you for certain that you aren’t ready on an emotional level.
take care,
heather
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Can You Trust Him?
i really want to have sex with my boyfriend but we haven’t even kissed yet it’s so nerve -racking
you should not have because you asked if you should and have you asked your parents about sex and this boy about condoms and stuff like that and have you asked him if he is telling the truth about have sex 3 times?
Yoou Arent Ready To Have Sex Else Yoou Would Have Done It By Now!!
I Would Jut Wait Till yoou Meet the Right Guy That Loves Yoou For Who Yoou Are Not Just For sex!!
Just Us a Comdom Or Go On The Pill x
My question is, what is up with all the kids who insist on having serious relationships and engaging in sexual contact at 13, 14 years old? At that age, you're just children. When I was thirteen, I was worried about who my first kiss would be, not who my first time would be. I understand that it's natural to start wondering about sex at that age, but wondering about it is a far cry from actually DOING it. You're young, you have a lot of things to look forward to other than having sex. At that age, the focus should be on friends, school, sports, your future. Not boys and sex. I don't expect people to wait for marriage, but you should at least wait until you reach the age of consent to start having sex. The age of consent exists for a reason. Besides, if you have to question such a big decision, is it really a good idea in the first place?
I know right I’m 13 and i haven’t even kissed anyone yet… But most of the girls i know are 13/14 and already had sex… Iam not relious at all but I want my first time to be with the man I am going to marry…
Okay,
I'm 13 and I know that I'm hella not ready for sex and wont be until I find a guy that loves me for me, not just because I "really like him" or because "he's had sex 3 times already."
You shouldn't just get in on with this guy because you can, he's probably just using you for your body anyway, I mean you only dated for 2 months and he wants to have sex?
THINK THIS THROUGH!!!!!!!!
THis sounds exactly like my friend's prob. YOu see the other day she said that she was ready to have sex with her boyfriend. I tryed really hard to change her mind because i think its crazy if u were friends for a while but all of a sudden want to be gf and bf. i was thinking….
*Does he like you or you body?
*Have you talked to an adult?
*What if something bad happens?
*what if you get pregant?
However as i was talking to her, she didnt say what i wanted to hear and made very worried about her. She said she was gonne just touch his penis, and i don't mind, its a good way to explore. But i think they(in the story and my friends) need to slow down because i don't want their hearts to got broken because of sex.
yeah i dont get why us girls think they way we do but im not gonna be presured to do things i dont want to….
I'm thirteen. 14 in a few days, I just had sex for the first time with my boyfriend. I told him to stop midway…. It just didn't feel right. He didn't get mad and neither did I and we layed down and talked about how I felt and how he felt. There were no hard feelings and after that talk and seeing how he didn't mind that I wasn't ready. I'm sure that I trust him enough to let it happen next time. He treats me amazingly and I know he has a good track record. Everyone I know approves and I love his family <3 I just know it's right.