You asked, he answered. Introducing Help Me Henry!

Hey gURLs,

Welcome to Help me Henry, my regular(-ish) column where I try to bring in a guy’s perspective on all your pressing questions about, um, guys. I saw the comments you posted last week and will do my best over the course of my posts to answer as many of them as possible. But first, here are some things you should know about me:

1.       I’m not a sexpert nor am I trying to be one. In fact, you already have one on this site, and she’s pretty good. (And cute. Hi Lena.)

2.       I’m not a doctor. If you think you need to see a doctor, go see a doctor, if for no other reason than peace of mind. I hear the boards are also a good resource.

3.       I’m a regular dude. I’ve had my fair share of experiences with girls—from casual hookups to long distance relationships—but I’m not claiming to be a casanova or anything. Basically what I’m trying to say is that I’m no Joe Jonas, but I’m no Kevin Jonas either. I’d consider myself a solid 8. (On a good day.)

If you want to know anything else about me personally, just ask! Leave a comment—I’d love to hear from you.

But for now, on to your questions! Let’s start at the very beginning, shall we?

Kim asked, “Why do guys go for the girls who throw themselves at them, cheat on them and treat them wrong. When there are nice girls who would be respectful, kind and want to be with them???”

Well first of all, Kim, as much as it might seem like every guy goes for the easy girl, that’s really not the case. Does that mean I’ve never talked to a girl because she seemed like a “sure thing”? No. But it also doesn’t mean I completely ignore “the good girl” every single time. Give us guys some credit.

Secondly, let me flip the script for a brief second. Have you ever heard the phrase, “Nice guys finish last”? It’s not like you girls always go for the good guy. Just ask Audrina from The Hills.

Kim, just because a guy hooks up with the easy girl, doesn’t mean he respects her. (Or himself for that matter.) Furthermore, you may not believe this, but guys get nervous around girls too. Sometimes those “nice” and “respectful” girls  are so perfect that they seem out of our league, so rather than growing the balls to approach them, they take the easy way out. (Pun intended.)

But trust me—while it may take a while for some guys, in the end most of us get it. Maybe the real question is, why would you waste time wanting a guy that doesn’t realize the great thing he has right in front of him?

That’s all I’ve got for now. I’ll be back soon to answer more of your reader questions, but until then, please leave a comment and let me know what you want to know.

Later,
Henry

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