not ready for sex, use a vibrator? and what is a vibrator?

dear heather,
Everyone at my school says if your not ready for the real sex, start with a
vibrator. Is this true?

and p.s. what is a vibrator?

The funny thing about rumors is that so many of them are untrue. Just like this one. Vibrators are not neccessarily a precursor to sex and has nothing to do with readiness.

A vibrator is a battery powered device or sex toy that literally vibrates (surprise!) to stimulate your erongenous zones, typically over your clitoris, but also inside your vagina, anus or other body parts. Sometimes, they look like massagers but more famously, “the butterfly” is a well known shape for women, as the center fits nicely into your vaginal lips, on top of your clitoris or “g-spot,” while its wings spread over the lips. But there are many other toys in other shapes, as well. Many are phallic shaped (like a penis) and can be used internally or externally. I wrote a whole Fast Facts about vibrators (and dildos too!) not too long ago, so check it out.

The great thing about vibrators is that they do offer stronger stimulation while masturbating than say, your hand does. If using one will make you feel confident, then go ahead and do it. You may want to experiment with putting it inside you, but it is very different from a penis. Make sure you keep it really clean, if you do!

take care,
Heather

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