I’m a 16 year old girl. I’m really skinny at 100lbs max and 5”5’. I have decent sized boobs at a 32C, a tiny waist (23”) and hips (32’). I have only ever had 1 zit in my life. When I’m not in school I do freelance modeling. And that’s where my troubles begin. Everyone makes fun of how scrawny I am. They call me anorexic and say I’m an Asian/Spic Barbie. I know I shouldn’t be complaining. I just want to be normal. I hate being treated like I’m a doll, or like I’m just plastic with nothing between the ears. I technically have the IQ of a genius (no joke), but no one takes me seriously. I’m more than just a pretty shell! It deeply saddens me that as a senior in high school, guys don’t want to talk to me. I’ve dated a couple of guys in university, but I think I was merely a trophy girlfriend. They expected me to be an airhead, and when I offered valid and intelligent rebuttals to their comments, they run away like children. What can I do to look normal? I don’t want to stand out anymore. I’m so frustrated!
I can’t change how you look, but I can help you change how you perceive yourself. You obviously have a lot going for you — but you feel that people make fun of you because of these things, when really, they are what makes you, YOU. Have you ever thought that maybe people just view you as intimidatingly beautiful or intimidatingly smart? Many guys feel emasculated by beautiful women with strong personalities. And girls can be really jealous. And both emasculation and jealousy can rear their ugly heads in teasing and name calling. It’s not fair, I know.
As for everyone making fun of you for being scrawny, just think — every girl has something she’s insecure about, and probably has something she gets made fun of for. Whether “too fat,” complaining of “too small” boobs or anything of the sort, everyone has something. Just view your skinny body as unique, and know that it’s something that many girls would kill for.
You also need to know that there is no such thing as “looking normal,” as you say. Everyone’s body is different, everyone’s brain works a different way, and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Stop trying to fit into this mold of normalcy and know that by just being you, you’re already in it.
Need inspiration? Check out these perfectly imperfect things about some major celebs. Your success and self worth are not going to be determined by how you look, but how you apply our talent. Remember that. K?
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