advice gURL: her sweetie doesn’t want her to follow her dreams

you can't dream too big, right Vanessa?

We just read this on our Shout Out Boards:

” My boyfriend is being horrible! When I grow up, I want to be a photographer.

We’ve been together for almost two years, we’ve conceived a child (which we lost), and we’re pretty much joined at the hip. We’re really into each others lives and futures. He HATES the fact that I’m “aiming so low”. He says I’m “aiming low” because I’m lazy!

This is my passion!

He thinks its a hobby, not a career. Its making me feel terrible…”

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  • Tashiana

    Wow… your pictures are beautiful. Boan if you know what you love doing then go out and do it. You know what you are capable of doing and you need to follow your dreams. If you're as passionate about photography as I think you are then someone elses judgement shouldn't affect your choices about your OWN LIFE.. Be true, be you, and follow your heart.


  • Ysa

    I browsed through your gallery. 🙂 Your photos are beautiful.

    Follow your dreams. So long as you have a goal in life, and you actually do something to achieve it, then you are definitely not "aiming low." 🙂 Do not let your boyfriend dictate how you should run your life. Besides, you are the captain of your own soul. If photography is your passion, then go for it.

    Also, as Becca mentioned, you can get paid for your work. It's awesome because you can get paid by simply doing what you love. 🙂 I know a tonne of people who became really successful because of their remarkable talent in photography.

    If your boyfriend really loves you, he would be supportive in what you like doing. 🙂 If he is worried about your future, then prove to him that you are better than how he perceives you to be. You are not stubborn in any way.

    I am pretty sure you will become a professional photographer someday. Keep the passion burning, Emily. Do not let anyone shoo your dreams away. 🙂 Good luck!

  • Brittany

    You really don't need to be held down by someone so negative. Definitely go for what you want. Your boyfriend should never be calling you lazy by the way; that's just rude and unkind. I'd also examine your relationship if he's rude enough to call you lazy for doing what you want to do.

  • Becca

    I am a professional photographer, Meaning I have gotten paid for my work. It is most definitely not a lazy job, it's art! My last job I had was taking senior pictures for someone and we had to walk nearly two miles around an area to get good shots. Photography could also be a side job, as I am going to college for culinary arts but also doing photography, But it's a wonderful hobby as well as a career, It can make so much money the longer you do it. I wish you well in your career 🙂 It's a wonderful thing to have!