Hey Lena, I so badly want to have sex. I’m 13, and i go to porn sites to get myself turned on. I’m popular, but no one will have sex, am I too young? Please help!
Lena’s advice: Instead of asking yourself, “Am I too young to have sex?”, why not try asking, “Am I too young to handle all the responsibilities that come along with sex?” Your body may be ready to get it on, but you might not be ready for everything that might lead to. We can take a lot of precautions, but since birth control can be hard for young teens to obtain and easy to forget to use, STIs and pregnancy are risks you have to be able to deal with. At 13, you can’t even drive yourself to the gyno; let’s not even talk about popping out babies. It might be smart to wait a few years until you’re old enough to handle making serious decisions about your reproductive health.
In the meantime, it sounds like you’re developing a healthy sex drive, and that’s totally normal when you’re going through puberty. Being curious, masturbating, and thinking more about sex are all part of growing up. You can satisfy a lot of desires that way, without having sex before you’re ready to deal with the potential consequences.
And, having sex will not affect your popularity level, nor will your popularity level determine your sexual conduct. You should decide for yourself, not peer pressure, when is right for you.
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