i don’t think i believe in love

dear heather,
What is love? I personally believed that love doesn’t exist, but as of late I think I am in love, but I have never experienced it before. I want to know what it is like to be in love and is it possible at my age (16) to be in love? Is it possible to have the mental growth to have that emotion?

What is love? It’s a question that has vexed people for centuries.

There are several definitions of the word in the dictionary, but basically, love is an intense emotional attachment, usually involving a deep and tender feeling of affection and concern toward a person. As the song goes, love is a many-splendored thing.

There are, of course, different kinds of love. There’s romantic love, like you might feel for someone you would date, and there’s the love you can feel for your family or a pet or your close friends. There’s also the kind of love that you might feel for a school or a team or something that you are really into.

Sometimes people differentiate the feelings of loving someone versus being “in love” with someone.

I think it is possible for someone who is in their teens to feel like they are in love with someone–that is, having exciting, romantic, crush-like feelings for someone. But I also think it’s possible, at that age, to love someone: to have feelings that remain even after the giddiness or crush-like emotions might fade away.

People who are the same age can be wildly different in terms of maturity level and the sort of things they believe. Keep in mind that even though you may be in love with or love your first boy/girlfriend, it’s not uncommon for those feelings to change as you get older–although it is also possible for someone to love the same person romantically for a very long time.

take care,

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