i had sex on my period. could i be pregnant?

dear heather,
I had sex with my ex-boyfriend when I was on my period. Right before we had sex, my period stopped (I checked), then after I went home I was bleeding again. We didn’t use a condom. Can I be pregnant?

There’s a misconception that you can’t get pregnant on your period, but the truth is that you can get pregnant pretty much anytime you have unprotected sex. The fact is this: you can only get pregnant when you’re ovulating, but the ovulation cycles of teenagers are pretty wacky and ovulation and menstruation aren’t mutually exclusive. If there comes a point in time where you’re trying to get pregnant — when you’re in love and settled and ready for a baby — your doc will probably tell you that getting pregnant during your period is pretty difficult. But while you’re young, it’s possible.

But let’s look past the pregnancy risk for a sec.

I’m sorry for the tough love, but what were you thinking having sex without a condom? Even if you thought you couldn’t get pregnant during your period, which I’ve already pointed out is indeed possible, condoms are non-negotiable. They protect from STDs and a lot of nasty things that you don’t want to pick up from anyone, especially an  ex-boyfriend.

And let’s look past that for a sec too!  Um, why are you having sex with your ex? That has friends-with-benefits disaster written all over it. Attaching strings to a relationship that’s just been cut-off doesn’t help you, and could make the potential complications of gaining an STD or being pregnant so much harder. And since he’s not committed to you, he has no reason to not tell you about other partners he’s been doing and potentially contracting harmful STDs from.

So to recap: be careful having sex on your period and never, ever have sex without condoms (and add “don’t have sex with ex-boyfriends” to the list while you’re at it).

take care,
heather

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  • Jessica

    Shes right though… i don't understand why anyone takes a chance with it. Condoms aren't a bad thing, so why not use them? I always use birth control, even when we're just doing "other things". The bottom line is this: If you don't want to get pregnant, be responsible.

  • Dani

    Why in heavens name would anyone have sex on thier period…?

  • heather

    hi rachel,

    i think it's important to have a few different points of view when it comes to advice, but in this case i was just trying to get the facts across, and the fact is you can get pregnant during your period, and depending on your ovulation cycle, the chance for pregnancy could even be increased.

    i agree that a pregnancy test could alleviate a lot of worry, but i wanted to stress the importance of safe sex, even during that time of the month.

    i appreciate your feedback.

    xo heather

  • Rachel

    ok this lady sucks… i understand that you are trying to give her some wisdom along with her question but she wants a realistic answer…..the answer is…unless you have a very irregular period you are not pregnant. especially in you just came on your period. i would not stress just wait 4 weeks and then take 1 preg test then wait another week just in case and take a second…..i am like 80% sure ur not preggers tho…jesus woman lol

  • brionna

    OMG I WAS TALKING ABOUT HAVING SEX BUT IM NOT PLANING ON DOING IT INTO I GET OUT OF SKOOL OR 2 IM REALLY READY CAUSE ONCE IT'S GONE,IT'S GONE AND IT'S NEVER COMING BACK SOME OF MY FRIENDS MAY THINK IT'S COOL 2 HAVE SEX BECAUSE THE BOY TELLS HER THAT HE LOVES HER BUT IF THEY REALLY LOVED THEM THEN THEY WOULD WAIT 2 HAVE SEX…