lena’s advice: i really want a baby and i’m 15

Hey Lena,
I really want a baby! I know it’s not reasonable to have one at my age (I’m 15), but I can’t help feeling like this! What can I do? Is there something wrong with me?
– sweeetsugar177

Lena’s advice:
To put this into perspective: I’m 23 and even I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a child at this point. Parenting can be wonderful, but you owe it to your child and yourself to be prepared for the responsibility. There are enormous financial and time commitments to having a baby. (Let’s not even get started on the health dangers of carrying a baby as a teen mother.) In fairness to your parents, you shouldn’t be bringing in an addition to the family anyway. At least, not until you’re living on your own and able to support yourself!

You already know you’re not thinking rationally, so try asking yourself why you want to have a baby. Do you feel like you’re not getting what you need from your family and friends? gURLs can get stressed out sometimes, but you shouldn’t make a permanent decision just because you’re in a rough patch. Your years as a teenager are one of the most exciting and transformative periods of your life. A baby means a lot of extra responsibility and limits the number of opportunities you can take.

You have a lot to look forward to: college, travel, new relationships, and — when you’re ready, — a family of your own. Don’t rush; enjoy the ride.


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  • dandelionsmoothies

    oh hon, really don't worry about it! Is ur period due? If it is then really it's toatally normal to feel well,-broody. I know it's disconcerting at this age but u've got to get used to it, just try and make sure ur hormanes don't influence any major disision about this

    best of luck with that!