discuss: why is my boyfriend so mean?

mean boyfriends are not cool.

Question: My boyfriend has two different personalities. He’s not bipolar, but he can be so mean sometimes. He doesn’t give me the attention he used to when we first started out.. like he is “trying” to get to me. But now he probably feels like he doesn’t have to try, so that’s why he’s a jerk? I dunno.

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  • HuddleBuddle13

    My boyfriend is like that, one minute he is loving me up the next i feel like i did something and he gets so upset and he takes the blame for two seconds enough to say sorry then there is always a “but you do this this and this and it makes me upset and do the things i do” and he puts me on a guilt trip and i’ve tried to talk to him for so long this has been going on for a few months and nothing changes. he claims each argument we have sets him back and revert to being mean again but shouldnt it be the opposite? shouldnt an argument and seeing me so hurt be motivation? or am i completely delusional and should just stick to living my life through the romance novels i crave my life to be like….



  • CoolBoy17

    If he really was a nice guy and really cared, I don't think he would act like that. Take a good hard look at him. Is this what you want and need from the guy you are with? If not, it's time to move on.

    You should be aware that it's the nature of guys to work really hard to "get the girl", then once he has her I reverts to his true self. As I already said, if you don't like what he has reverted to, then find someone new.

  • dina

    youd be surprised how many guys are liek that. why be nice and waste time giving attention when he already has you?

  • sarah

    dump em i had one like that we were perfect in the begining and in the end he broke up with me for another gurl

  • jennyBgood

    I say Dump Him! you deserve better! And I love the new blog gurl! so cool. gurls rawk.

  • Klotheshorse

    idk, a lot of guys i've dated have loved seeing me get all riled up and like to push my buttons, but honestly, it gets old. i'd rather be single than date douche who can't be nice to me, even if he is "just kidding."

    • AshleyyBABYYY!!!!

      my best friend is like that and he hugs me all the time and last year he made me break up with my bf so he could get the rebound and he told me that he loves me and calls me baby and babe come here and he was always there for me but then like i broke up with my bf and he didnt do anything and i regret it so much now