i have an imaginary world

dear heather,

I’ve had this “imaginary” world since I was in kindergarten. I’m 13 now. I have just now started telling people about it, but they think I’m weird. And I know, imaginary friends at 13? Yeah, but I really don’t think it’s all that imaginary. I mean, if it was, why would I cry over these people? Can you help me figure out what’s wrong with me?

Make believe is an important part of everyone’s childhood. It makes you creative and it inspires outside-of-the-box thinking. Have you ever heard of J. K. Rowling? She’s the author of the Harry Potter series, which are books she wrote based on an “imaginary” world too. She put her pen to paper and became famous from this world. She fleshed out the characters, she envisioned the settings, and she invited thousands and thousands of people to be part of her imaginary world.Maybe you’re the next J.K. Rowling, or Stephanie Meyer (she created Twilight), or Cecily von Ziegesar (she wrote the Gossip Girl). And you know what? Maybe you’re not. Maybe you just have a vivid imagination and a knack for daydreaming.

Don’t be ashamed of your creative ideas. You’re a visionary, and you should embrace it. At the same time, a fulfilling real life is important, too. Make sure to balance your friends at school with your imaginary friends, and don’t let your make-believe world infiltrate your day-to-day life to the point that it interrupts have a healthy life, socially, academically and emotionally.

That said, your imaginary friends shouldn’t get you to the point of tears. So while I wouldn’t tell you to drop your “imaginary friends,” like any friend who might cause unnecessary drama in your life, I’d say reconsider the friendship.

take care,

Posted in: Being Different, Help Me Heather
  • Kylie

    To the gURL who asked the question: My life sounds almost identical to yours. I’m 14, and like you, I’ve had “imaginary” friends since kindergarten age. I’m the only person who can see my best friend. My advice, first off don’t keep telling people. They never understand and they’ll think you’re weird, crazy, or pretending. If you’re going to tell anyone, make it a doctor. On the other hand, embrace the fact that you have the gift of seeing into a world that nobody else can. I believe it’s a truly special thing that most people don’t experience or understand. And above all, don’t doubt yourself. You are absolutely perfect.

  • Chloe

    Me and my friends created imaginary worlds for fun in 5th grade but now I just go there and “hang” with them when I feel sad!

  • Imaginary

    I didn't have an imaginary friend when I was a little kid but at the age of 12 I developed a secret imaginary friend that I talked to in my head based on a character in a book that I identified with. I'm 22 and I still talk to him in my head sometime. I've only ever told one friend in highschool, and my husband. I know that my friend is not real (probably) but he helps me sort ideas out and as long as I don't let my "relationship" with the friend in my head become a focal point of my life, I don't see any harm in it.

  • I'm the same way, only with my characters in my stories. I fall deeply in love with my characters, as I see them as pieces of myself.

    I'm deeply creative, and I often envision what my life would be like if my characters were real. It's a pretty interesting lifestyle, but I mostly keep my imagination to myself (as people think I'm weird too).

    You should try inking your imaginary world into a written form; I bet it could make amazing stories.

    Best of luck, and I hope you can find a great balance between your reality and your "reality", if you get what I mean! 😉

  • Anais

    I'm the same. I've had an imaginary world for years, although naturally it's changed alot since I was five (I'm now fifteen). It's definitely normal, plus it's fun! I love my imaginary universe and the characters I have created. A lot of the time I like it more than real life!

  • Alex

    OMG ME TOO!!! Only mine is a bit different. I sorta imagine boyfriends for me. Though for some reason I was never able to grasp the whole imaginary boyfriend/friend thing. Anyway, I would (and still do) imagine a date or something really romantic. It's fun to think up your ideal guy. I'm not obsessed with it, but when I have the free time, if something in the soap opera in my head doesn't make sense or isn't linked or caused by something it like goes wrong and I obsess over it and think until it's right- OKAY YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S HARD TO EXPLAIN! But yeah that's what goes on and it's so muchfun. i've been doing it for years and I won't stop. It even helps me sleep!


    • leslie

      OMG same here, its a little weird but its who i am. so who cares

  • I sort of walk on the line between reality and unreality, sort of as if I live in reality but see it backwards. It's pretty funny, most of the time, and makes me difficult to argue with.

    I like it that way.

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