discuss: friends with benefits

Question: If my crush says they just want to be friends with benefits, will it ever be worth anything?

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  • Felicity

    This is the set up I currently have with my ex. It works fantastically for us, we're best friends and there's noone else either of us wants, we just have too much we each need to do at the moment to be able to be in a relationship. We love each other dearly, and we talk for hours every day, and hook up for sex at least once a week.

    However, I've done this before with someone else and it didn't work at all, because we didn't care for each other.

    It's something you have to judge on your own.

    Does he care for you, or does he just want to get laid?

  • Sandra

    Hey My crushed wanted to be frinends with benifits but all he wanted was dirty pics…… so I wouldnt think so.

  • Heaven Haile

    Its hard to have a friends with benefits relationship and not fall for the person but if u want to have "fun" go ahead. Just make sure that its benefiting u as well as him.

  • carlsbabydoll93

    I don't think it will, cuz to me, all that's saying is "i wanna be your friend and also do you every now and then". BUT, if it's a long distance relationship, it could MAYBE work… like if you see him sometimes… it depends on the person… idk. If you think it will work, try it. But if you have a bad feeling, DEFINITELY stay away from it!

  • Jasmine

    Well i mean if you're looking for a complete no-commitment relationship with someone then this is the road to take. Its intended for fun .. but it can be risky because sometimes you end up getting attached to that person and actually liking them in a more serious way.

  • yessi1love

    No i would say don't go there those type of guys just wanna have fun. so if hooking up with him is going to make u like him more then don't do it because he is going to end up hurting you. I suggest telling him your better off without him even if it hurts u your better off without him.
    But if Your not looking to make him your boyfriend and just wanna have fun by all means then go for it.

  • b_elrod_xo

    well honestly,ive never seen anything come from a "friends with benefits" relationship.it sounds like the guy is out to get all he can.so if i was you…just back away.

  • well sometimes it is okay to have friends wit benifits but most of the time it leads with having sex and doing things that you wont feel umcomftorable with i have a "guy friend" who has a girlfriends and he wants to be friends with benifits but in my opinion he just wants some most guys are like that cuz they dont get anything fromt there girlfriends or might just use yu because they no THERE NEVER GETTING ANYTHING FROM THIER GIRLFRIENDS. hope this helped.

  • L.C.

    wow ths is a toughie but more can come from it. b/c not long ago i was tlkin 2 a boi n he had a chic but we were friends w/ benefits n thn he said he cared 4 me n made me b on the phn wen he broke up w/ his gurl n ask me out n everythng so more can kum but u will kno if more is there
    its a gurls intuition
    you will kno whether it will go farther or if it wil stay the same by the way he acts n the way he treats u. i mean if he knows u want 2 go farther n he still just says ths friends stuff u need 2 dig inside u n see if ths will turn out on a good side or a bad 1 its really complicated[ths question] but look inside yourself b/c i bet u already kno the answer

  • clarissa

    well um i've always felt uncomfprtable with actually accepting this situation bacause the "friend" would always have somone else. In my case it wasn't fair. He had a girlfriend but because we were bestfriends, he saw it oka to make out with me. It went no further than that, because I was afraid of being with him having 1st hand experience of what he may end up doing to me. It's really hard especially when you really like the person. Well in my case liked the person. I mean dont get me wrong maybe it may work for some but I know for me it was complicated and at the end. I decided to just stay as my title and status to him just a bestfriend. I couldn't dare do something to a girl that I wouldn't want have done to me……….

  • clarissa

    well um i’ve always felt uncomfprtable with actually accepting this situation bacause the “friend” would always have somone else. In my case it wasn’t fair. He had a girlfriend but because we were bestfriends, he saw it oka to make out with me. It went no further than that, because I was afraid of being with him having 1st hand experience of what he may end up doing to me. It’s really hard especially when you really like the person. Well in my case liked the person. I mean dont get me wrong maybe it may work for some but I know for me it was complicated and at the end. I decided to just stay as my title and status to him just a bestfriend. I couldn’t dare do something to a girl that I wouldn’t want have done to me……….

  • Louise.

    Being "friends with benefits" is tricky depending on the guy. If he is loving, caring and doesn't have a bad bone in his body then he might just want to be "friends with benefits" just for now.
    But in some other situations, it'll be just a way to use you for abit of pleasure. You're only going to get hurt in the end and it's not worth it.

  • Stephanie

    I don't think you will get anything from friends with benefits than just sex,I really don't think you will get a real relationship from that.I really never been with someone like that but I have friends that have and that just came out hurting really bad from that type of friendship with a guy.I have a friend that had a friend with benefits because the guy had a girlfriend.She always thought they can be that until he broke up with he's girl and that why he can start dating her.So when he broke up wtiht he's girlfriend, he just started dating another girl and told my friend he can't never have a girlfriend like her because she wasn't a serouis type because she will have sex with a guy without being in a relationship.So like i said you will just end up hurt and left with nothing.I mean in other casts it works out but is really not likly

  • krishay

    take it from me bois are dogs nd they would treat u lyke dirt i mean if u want to be friends with benfits try to be friends and work yall way up to sumthing closer iam thinking he have a lot more friends with benfits trust me nd you should be the only one

  • person

    i doubt it.
    it could, but you're a person, with feelings not just a body, so you deserve someone who wants to be with you.
    and who realizes how beautiful and special you are.

  • Jimmy Jazz

    i disagree with most of these comments, sometimes more can come from friends with benefits.
    me and my boyfriend started out as friends, then moved to friends with benefits and now we've been together for 6 months.
    sometimes it's more a case of wanting to take the emotional part slowly than just wanting sex.
    so my advice is to talk to him about it and figure out why he wants to be friends with benefits, don't do anything that doesn't feel right.